Too many people nowadays suffer from "not being straight forward disoder" (love, call)

[ItWasWritten]

More of a vent/rant than anything, but I have noticed that a lot of people are scared to let someone down. If someone knows that something is happening on a certain night and they don't want to go they will either A: Tell you their going when their not or B: Not answer phone calls or text messages C: Make up some last minute lie about having to be else where. I personally like having a head count for things to know what to expect etc but lately it has become impossible.

I also hate it when people feel like giving you their number and then tell you your a stranger or something when they take hours to reply to stuff and never want to do anything. Ohh maybe next week and next week comes they pull another excuse. Whats is wrong with people?

[jeepgirl27]

Originally Posted by ItWasWritten

More of a vent/rant than anything, but I have noticed that a lot of people are scared to let someone down. If someone knows that something is happening on a certain night and they don't want to go they will either A: Tell you their going when their not or B: Not answer phone calls or text messages C: Make up some last minute lie about having to be else where. I personally like having a head count for things to know what to expect etc but lately it has become impossible.

I also hate it when people feel like giving you their number and then tell you your a stranger or something when they take hours to reply to stuff and never want to do anything. Ohh maybe next week and next week comes they pull another excuse. Whats is wrong with people?

They have no respect..

[TakeAhike]

Originally Posted by ItWasWritten

More of a vent/rant than anything, but I have noticed that a lot of people are scared to let someone down. If someone knows that something is happening on a certain night and they don't want to go they will either A: Tell you their going when their not or B: Not answer phone calls or text messages C: Make up some last minute lie about having to be else where. I personally like having a head count for things to know what to expect etc but lately it has become impossible.

I also hate it when people feel like giving you their number and then tell you your a stranger or something when they take hours to reply to stuff and never want to do anything. Ohh maybe next week and next week comes they pull another excuse. Whats is wrong with people?

I find that too many people suffer from being 'too straightforward'--myself included. The 'Getting in each other's face/sharing of personal Truth' syndrome really annoys me.

Let me tell you--having lived a good while now--there is not much that I don't understand--generally tolerant--a few things that I really don't like--and will be motivated to 'rage'/take action of some sort--cruelty being at the top of the list--everything else I can live with--being some sort of 'moral relativist'--hypocrite or whatever.

Eagles, Jimmy Buffet, all county music, rappers, ---those who sing the songs--they understand this. Also understood by those who have religious beliefs--sufficiently developed people of any kind.

You will go through life--and meet all kinds of people--some are better for you than others. You may like and love all kinds---best to know yourself well enough to pick the ones that appreciate you and know you well enough to respond appropriately.

'Take it Easy-Eagles--no more needs to be said.

[98db]

I tried something completely different in my last relationship. I tried to be completely honest, up-front, and remove any ambiguity or guessing about what I like, want, or am feeling. I felt good that I was being heard and she knew exactly where I was coming from.

She, on the other hand, felt that I was making the relationship all about myself and my needs, even though I tried to get her to open up similarly. Needless to say, the relationship did not work out. I guess I have to figure out where the sweet-spot is for being straight-forward.

[therewego]

People are too busy, have enough friends so don't need a new one or you as a friend, people don't do what they say they'll do. I don't care if something came up, just have the common courtesy to call and say so.

[TakeAhike]

Originally Posted by therewego

People are too busy, have enough friends so don't need a new one or you as a friend, people don't do what they say they'll do. I don't care if something came up, just have the common courtesy to call and say so.

I will share this--from a member of the military/male--'I have no regrets'. You don't have to join a branch of the military to learn this philosophy--many are naturally inclined to it. It is personally beyond me to understand how people live this way.

What it seems to be that we are all going with 'I am what I am'/Free to Be, You and Me--an adaptation of Sesame Street of some sort--most people don't truly want to hurt others--but are compelled to meet their own needs. We must all be very 'Strong'--define boundaries and understand the potential consequences--if the price is too high the risk isn't worth taking.

Just finished listening to the Nitty Gritty Dirt Band--some very wise advice is available from this group>>>
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[Lital_The_Best]

I know this ALL too well. The problem is with all this technology, everyone kind of hides behind it. They feel they can take their time and devise some sort of b.s. lie or excuse not to go through with a plan. Instead of just being upfront and saying "I don't feel like doing this or that" they figure by ignoring everything then the next day being F.O.S (full of s--t) everything will be okay. I much rather someone tell me upfront or at least ahead of time, even if it bothers me at least I can respect that they are being upfront. Unlike people who just are M.I.A when you have plans and just can't be human enough to tell you.

Technology really has people take communicating for granted these days. It's RIDICULOUSLY annoying how sometimes I'll text or call someone trying to get in touch with them because we had plans and they don't respond but yet I see their activity on Facebook. Then they have the nerve to say "Oh, I am so sorry, I just had last minute things fall on my lap!" Whatever. People like that I just don't bother with to be honest. I let them come to me when they find out they are missing out on stuff and make it harder for me to hangout with me.

I guess I am rather old school and prefer to have serious communication face-to-face rather than over Facebook or text. It's almost become acceptable and cool to bicker over Twitter, Facebook and all that crap. I'm not with it.

[chris72]

Originally Posted by 98db

I tried something completely different in my last relationship. I tried to be completely honest, up-front, and remove any ambiguity or guessing about what I like, want, or am feeling. I felt good that I was being heard and she knew exactly where I was coming from.

She, on the other hand, felt that I was making the relationship all about myself and my needs, even though I tried to get her to open up similarly. Needless to say, the relationship did not work out. I guess I have to figure out where the sweet-spot is for being straight-forward.

More over time. Too much in the beginning is a turn off. More as they get to know you. Also depends on what you are being honest about as well.

[chris72]

Originally Posted by Lital_The_Best

I know this ALL too well. The problem is with all this technology, everyone kind of hides behind it. They feel they can take their time and devise some sort of b.s. lie or excuse not to go through with a plan. Instead of just being upfront and saying "I don't feel like doing this or that" they figure by ignoring everything then the next day being F.O.S (full of s--t) everything will be okay. I much rather someone tell me upfront or at least ahead of time, even if it bothers me at least I can respect that they are being upfront. Unlike people who just are M.I.A when you have plans and just can't be human enough to tell you.

Technology really has people take communicating for granted these days. It's RIDICULOUSLY annoying how sometimes I'll text or call someone trying to get in touch with them because we had plans and they don't respond but yet I see their activity on Facebook. Then they have the nerve to say "Oh, I am so sorry, I just had last minute things fall on my lap!" Whatever. People like that I just don't bother with to be honest. I let them come to me when they find out they are missing out on stuff and make it harder for me to hangout with me.

I guess I am rather old school and prefer to have serious communication face-to-face rather than over Facebook or text. It's almost become acceptable and cool to bicker over Twitter, Facebook and all that crap. I'm not with it.

That's just poor form. Just like people giving status updates on Facebook when they're supposed to be at work or at church; they're out shopping or at the Mets game. Just poor form all the way around.

[crisan]

What I have chosen to do is not assume the worst intentions of people who are not straight forward. It is simple really. They don't join me.