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Old 03-31-2011, 07:53 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Exactly. I'm rather surprised that so many people are unfamiliar with what a true "escort service" is about.
I certainly don't blame them, though - with what uses the name "escort service" these days.

Odd (or perhaps not) parallel - bodyguard services are available for rent as well, and while the major part of their job is of course protection they also have assignments where they have to blend in rather than be the obvious brute; the ability to successfully pull off these assignments hinges upon the bodyguard's ability to adapt to his surroundings, dress down and act quietly and elegantly.

Nowadays, even the local free weekly entertainment rag in these parts, "The Weekender" (in which of course my club has a half-page color ad every week ) has several pages worth of "escort" services, all stunningly rendered with 1980's stock-photos of big-haired barely-legal blonde nymphets crawling around and purring how they want to show YOU a great time.

Take one of THOSE to a high-end business function and see how your co-workers and superiors treat you professionally and personally after the party...

"Like, OMG, that is SOOOOOOO totally SICK!!!" *twirling hair with finger*

...yeah, that display of good judgment and taste will get you the corner office a lot faster...
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Old 03-31-2011, 08:25 AM
 
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Us guys have to pay for the girls no matter what in one way or the other(most of the time)... so who cares if you have to slip in an extra couple of dollars...

And it brings a new challenge;
Since women will accept your offers if you make them high enough for her to accept you; The women will be there on that first date that can be so hard to get, and to then make someone who takes payment for dating to date you on her own will for second, third etc date would be quite an ego-booster.

Also; once she's been on a first date, and knows you wont bite it might be easier to go forward.
A lot of internet dating gets f-ed up because people will asume a guy is automaticly a creepo.
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Old 03-31-2011, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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No, not at all; male escorts, straight AND gay, are still far fewer in number than female escorts. It's just the way the market is; I believe it goes back to the basic differences between the genders and to the continuation of ages-old social conventions.
I guess I watch too much Law and Order!

But I still hold to the whatever floats your boat philosophy. I would never be an escort - or hire one - but who am I to judge what other people do. I've also never been single since I was 17 so I guess I feel like I don't even have the right to have an opinion on this.
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Old 03-31-2011, 02:06 PM
 
Location: Mile High City
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I'm sorry but I've been paid to be arm candy a couple of times by people who aren't exactly Brad Pitt. They had weddings or work functions to go to and didn't want to go alone and/or have a beautiful woman on their arm..No big deal. I always have a great time and make some money as well..
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Old 04-01-2011, 12:47 AM
 
Location: In my skin
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This guy owns SeekingArrangement.com, looks like he is just taking a different approach to the same gig. But it is a much better way for people to skirt the law for prostitution.
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Old 04-01-2011, 10:45 AM
 
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Getting paid to date a man? As cold as it may sound, isn’t your normal traditional dating, technically, the same thing?
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Old 04-01-2011, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Getting paid to date a man? As cold as it may sound, isn’t your normal traditional dating, technically, the same thing?
No. By your reasoning, I also pay my friends to be my friends when I treat them to dinner. I also pay my parents to love me when I treat them. And the times when I have paid for a date (which I have many times in the past when I was dating) - then I've basically just hired an escort for the evening. I think you are missing something in your brain if you equate paying for dinner to paying for an escort. With an escort - you are paying fo a body. You are paying for someone to play a role. You are paying to be seen with someone. And you are paying a heck of a lot more than the price of dinner. On a date - you are getting to know someone. You can pay, or you can split the check, or you can be treated. But on a date - it's not about the money - it's about the company. This shouldn't need explaining.
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Old 04-01-2011, 12:51 PM
 
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On a date - you are getting to know someone. You can pay, or you can split the check, or you can be treated. But on a date - it's not about the money - it's about the company. This shouldn't need explaining.
Come on, you even admitted to me that your guy paid way more times while you just “tried” to pay but he didn’t let you. Interesting how women proclaim they won’t let a man boss her around or tell her what to do but will only be submissive when a guy tells her to not pay. Go to google and type “who pays on a date…dating rules…chivalry…” and so on and tell me if I am making this stuff up.
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Old 04-01-2011, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Come on, you even admitted to me that your guy paid way more times while you just “tried” to pay but he didn’t let you. Interesting how women proclaim they won’t let a man boss her around or tell her what to do but will only be submissive when a guy tells her to not pay. Go to google and type “who pays on a date…dating rules…chivalry…” and so on and tell me if I am making this stuff up.
I'm not saying that it isn't considered chivalrous to have a guy pay on the date. Some men want to pay on the date. Some men are insulted if the woman pays or even tries to pay. Yes, my husband paid more often than I did. I also dated other guys where I paid more than they did. My ex-fiance and I usually split things - or often I paid. When I was just dating and not looking for a relationship - most times I treated. It just depends on the couple. Where most people see getting to know someone or doing something nice for someone - you just see dollar signs. Everything seems to come back to money with you. It's a sad way to go through life.

If you have an issue with guys paying - you should be taking it out on the guys. My husband wanted to pay. He would have paid every single time if I didn't put my foot down and let him allow me to pay sometimes. You should be upset with the men - not the women. And I assure you - most men do not consider taking a woman out to dinner on a date and picking up a check the same thing as hiring an escort.

Honestly - I don't understand how you don't understand relationships. You seem to think all women are just glorified prostitutes. What happened to you to make you feel this way? I think once you figure that out - your life will get much better.
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Old 04-01-2011, 01:29 PM
 
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Us guys have to pay for the girls no matter what in one way or the other(most of the time)... so who cares if you have to slip in an extra couple of dollars...
There will always be exceptions but, yeah, normally it is men who take care of expenses, initiative, romancing, etc.

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I'm not saying that it isn't considered chivalrous to have a guy pay on the date. Some men want to pay on the date. Some men are insulted if the woman pays or even tries to pay
And all this works your way. Men can feel insulted if he doesn’t pay. Is there anything out there where a woman will feel insulted if she doesn’t do it for her man and feel less of a woman?

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Yes, my husband paid more often than I did
There you go.

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I also dated other guys where I paid more than they did.
So they were not chivalrous, right?

Some women have agreed to paying, maybe splitting the tip or something, after they have gone through the initial/beginning stages. So what hold you from doing the same with your guy now if you did it before?

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It just depends on the couple
Their upbringing, their culture, etc. When I go out with western women, its fun and all, but they don’t usually contribute. It’s ok with me, we still go out again.

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If you have an issue with guys paying
It’s not an issue, I do it when I go out with western girls. It’s just a matter of preference. Women have a preference of not taking the initiative, nothing wrong with that. I have my preferences too.

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My husband wanted to pay. He would have paid every single time if I didn't put my foot down and let him allow me to pay sometimes
This is what I find interesting. Women don’t want to be bossed around by a man, told what to do, be “controlled”, etc. But have a guy tell them not to pay and all of a sudden women love to be submissive, obedient, etc. Come on. If women REALLY want to pay THEY WILL. Remember what I told you about that exchange student from Japan who really meant it when she said she wanted to pay and I kept telling her no no no? What did she do? See what I mean?

Let’s see. A man picks up a woman, takes her to dinners/wine, drinks, entertainment, buys her jewelry and other goodies, maybe a vacation here and there, etc. all she does is offer company and sex here and there. What does that make of her? Very different from a woman who does those things as well for a man. Not after months or years of the so called beginning/initial stages but right from the start.
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