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View Poll Results: Is it hard to find a good man?
No, I'm just not attracted to them 6 16.67%
Yes, Good men are hard to find 24 66.67%
No, Good men are everywhere and I date them all the time 6 16.67%
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Old 04-05-2011, 03:49 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I'm surprised we've gotten this far without anyone making the "a hard man is good to find" joke.
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Old 04-05-2011, 04:58 PM
 
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good men are hard to find. Most of those women, however, haven't met me.

I'm sure lots of women want to meet those good men, but they have to go and find them just like us men have to.

I think if women were to try and approach single men instead of men having to approach women most of the time, they would probably have a better chance at finding those men.
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Old 04-05-2011, 05:09 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I think if women were to try and approach single men instead of men having to approach women most of the time, they would probably have a better chance at finding those men.

I've thought about this lately - and the thing is - the few times that I wanted to approach someone, I did. But it wasn't from seeing them in the bar or out somewhere - it was someone that I talked to a bit and heard give a wonderful speech. I then got in contact with him and asked him out. It takes more than a face for me to be attracted to someone or want to go out with them. I'm all about personality - and you can't tell someone's personality by their appearance. Men have hit on me plenty of times going on nothing but my looks. I'm not saying that's good or bad - simply that I've never felt the desire to go up to a guy and meet him based solely on his looks. I usually realize I'm attracted to someone after I've already met them and gotten to know them a bit or have seen them enough to have a hunch as to what they might be like. So that's why I have never approached men as often as they have approached me.
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Old 04-05-2011, 06:32 PM
 
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There are tons of good men out there, but for those of us with certain criteria, it's tough finding a good man who fits our tastes.

For instance, I like smart men, but I also like men who are in shape. I'd be settling if I chose a gorgeous hunk with the brains of pudding, or a genius, well-spoken guy who didn't care about his physical well-being.
Everyone is smart. Its matter of who is using their brains and not being lazy.
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Old 04-05-2011, 06:35 PM
 
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The question is 'Are the supply there for these good men'?
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Old 04-05-2011, 06:38 PM
 
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Like I said before...

...sometimes women don't find good men out there because these good men are also looking for good women.
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Old 04-05-2011, 06:46 PM
 
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Like I said before...

...sometimes women don't find good men out there because these good men are also looking for good women.
Yes this can happen too... which can take a while.
I get the feeling I'll be either on my late 20's or early 30's (gonna turn 24 within 2 more days) by the time I finally settle down and find the good man with unique qualities, not some child who likes partying or frugal one.

It's gonna take a while but oh well....
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Old 04-05-2011, 06:47 PM
 
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Like I said before...

...sometimes women don't find good men out there because these good men are also looking for good women.
That I have to agree.

If you want a good man, be a good woman. Kind of a no-brainer
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Old 04-05-2011, 06:54 PM
 
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I've thought about this lately - and the thing is - the few times that I wanted to approach someone, I did. But it wasn't from seeing them in the bar or out somewhere - it was someone that I talked to a bit and heard give a wonderful speech. I then got in contact with him and asked him out. It takes more than a face for me to be attracted to someone or want to go out with them. I'm all about personality - and you can't tell someone's personality by their appearance. Men have hit on me plenty of times going on nothing but my looks. I'm not saying that's good or bad - simply that I've never felt the desire to go up to a guy and meet him based solely on his looks. I usually realize I'm attracted to someone after I've already met them and gotten to know them a bit or have seen them enough to have a hunch as to what they might be like. So that's why I have never approached men as often as they have approached me.
That's fine, your approach is one that has some thought.

The thing is, is that most women who often says "I'll never find a good man..." Are often never actually approaching or pursuing men! For them, or maybe most(?) it should be "Good men will never find me."

Honestly, I've stopped looking for over 2 months now.Not because I don't want to find someone, but because I became tired of rejection, and my time would be better spent succeeding.

I've got some great qualities, but I think those qualities show more if I can have a woman go on a series of dates, and not just an hour of communication. I have too many qualities that in an hour's time someone won't see half of them.
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Old 04-05-2011, 06:59 PM
 
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Like I said before...

...sometimes women don't find good men out there because these good men are also looking for good women.


I've found good men before.

I've also found men who think they're good, or they're good most of the time but when they feel slighted they turn into something else altogether.
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