the happy medium. (women, sex, sexy, serious)

[darrensmooth]

Originally Posted by mir86

I've thought about that, but I'm afraid of hurting his feelings...ya I know...I should just stop worrying about that, lol.

you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes

[Johnny Vanderburgh]

Originally Posted by mir86

I agree, but a huge part of me feels like I shouldn't have to ask for a change this early on in any type of relationship. I'll just have to see how it goes when I see him this weekend.

Fo sho.

Also, if what he's doing is true red flag material, don't be afraid to get gone, either.

[mir86]

Originally Posted by Johnny Vanderburgh

Fo sho.

Also, if what he's doing is true red flag material, don't be afraid to get gone, either.

ya I know. Just part of me feels like I led him on and I really didn't mean to so I'm torn about that as well. yes, I know, that was an excuse, lol. I was just thinking out loud..

darren- ya you're right too..

[crabman1]

I read all these threads as I mentally prepare myself for the day when I decide to venture into dating after a couple decades off and have decided that I'm not sure if I want to go there. Too many traps for a pathetic old dog to fall into. lol

[max's mama]

Well, that's why it's so hard to find someone who is compatible to you. Once you find a happy medium, better hold on to it.

[Etain2]

Originally Posted by mir86

I always seem to find men that are either super half a** in pursuing me or ones that smother me in less than a week and already need me too much.

Why is this? its bizarre....both scenarios make me lose interest, fast. Especially since I'm more of a happy medium myself and I'm too busy for either extreme.

Same here!! I am divorced 7 months, left marriage 2 yrs ago...... anyway I am trying to date slowly and bam the first 2 guys were like hi lets get married, freaky!!! Then I dated a younger guy and he was so not interested in a full on relationship, ok fine with that but can I get SOME attention, lol......
I just started dating a guy that seems to be a "happy medium" albiet definately not the type of guy I should, (we both have bad baggage from our ex's) but I'm going to give it a chance. I like his happy medium attitude and don't feel smoothered......... so don't give up, maybe you'll find yours when you least expect it like me

[Johnny Vanderburgh]

Originally Posted by mir86

ya I know. Just part of me feels like I led him on and I really didn't mean to so I'm torn about that as well. yes, I know, that was an excuse, lol. I was just thinking out loud..

So what have we learned?

1) Don't lead a dude on unless he's the kind of dude you want to have smother you.
2) Don't be afraid to bust out a "Simma down, na!" when necessary.
3) Polka has been known to send the wrong signal.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Johnny Vanderburgh

So what have we learned?

1) Don't lead a dude on unless he's the kind of dude you want to have smother you.

You nailed it! Somehow I have serious doubts people would feel smothered if smothered by somebody they're crazy about. That's not to say it's a good thing...

2) Don't be afraid to bust out a "Simma down, na!" when necessary.

Well, yeah... that's for the rest... *sigh*... But who wants them anyway...

[mir86]

Originally Posted by crabman1

I read all these threads as I mentally prepare myself for the day when I decide to venture into dating after a couple decades off and have decided that I'm not sure if I want to go there. Too many traps for a pathetic old dog to fall into. lol

Its a scary world out there. I tried to convince one of my friends not to dump his girlfriend, told him that dating is awful and he'll see that once he's ready again. I think my advice worked since they're still together.

max's mama-I'm very grateful of healthy relationships so I plan to hold on to the happy medium when he shows up, lol.

Etain2- wow, I'm glad I'm not the only one!

[mir86]

Originally Posted by Johnny Vanderburgh

So what have we learned?

1) Don't lead a dude on unless he's the kind of dude you want to have smother you.
2) Don't be afraid to bust out a "Simma down, na!" when necessary.
3) Polka has been known to send the wrong signal.

1) I told him I'm willing to get to know him, but I didn't expect this and its making me feel like I led him on. I probably didn't, but it feels like it.
2) lol, I'll work on that!
3) Apparently that!