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I totally disagree with this. I know countless women who have had abortions and never give it a second thought. It doesn't "haunt" anyone I've known who has had one. You're putting your feelings onto other people.
As for the original question, I would not cheat, no interest to do so. Even if he never found out, I would know and couldn't live with it.
I gotta disagree.
I've known several people involved in abortions who have been haunted by it for years, especially every year around the time the baby would have been born
I totally disagree with this. I know countless women who have had abortions and never give it a second thought. It doesn't "haunt" anyone I've known who has had one. You're putting your feelings onto other people.
As for the original question, I would not cheat, no interest to do so. Even if he never found out, I would know and couldn't live with it.
Well, it's nice to know that you know "countless of women" who had abortions, (although I'm not sure how it relates to the situation, it's not like the fetus can come from the dead and show up at your doorway) but you don't really know whether or not they are haunted by it. Human guilt is not always visible to other people.
I've known several people involved in abortions who have been haunted by it for years, especially every year around the time the baby would have been born
I know this is way off the thread, but I have to share this story. My sister had an abortion 20 yrs ago. She now has a 12 year old daughter. Her daughter told me she had a dream that she had an older sister that was around 19-22 years old. Spooky!!!!
Well, it's nice to know that you know "countless of women" who had abortions, (although I'm not sure how it relates to the situation, it's not like the fetus can come from the dead and show up at your doorway) but you don't really know whether or not they are haunted by it. Human guilt is not always visible to other people.
I agree - I know plenty of people who have had abortions numbering between 1 to 5 and they really could care less. And the fact that the men aren't haunted by the abortion either just gives these women less of a reason to be haunted by guilt. Some people feel bad about making a mistake and having to undergo the regrettable abortion, but I doubt they'd do anything different if given a second chance.
What would haunt me more is having an unwanted living child that I have to be responsible for every day.
I would never cheat in a relationship. I would end the relationship/marriage before I risked losing the trust and respect of my SO. I would not want to have to tell and hurt my SO or live with the guilt of walking around with a dirty little secret pretending that our relationship is wonderful.
Hmm, Dear Abby answered this one time and her advice was to not tell, because you're selfishly making yourself feel better by relieving your conscience, but the other person will feel worse.
Oh that Dear Abby was a wise woman! It serves no good purpose to confess to your spouse! If the cheater is feeling guilty, good,make it up to your SO by being the best partner you can be!
No I would not cheat because I love my S/O GREATLY and just the thought of hurting him makes me sick to my stomach. I've wanted him ever since I laid eyes on him and there is NO ONE in this world worth jeopardizing my relationship for.
For the sake of the question if I ever cheated, I wouldn't tell because I'd rather live with the guilt rather than to see him have to live with it cos he doesn't deserve it.
If he was to cheat on me I wouldn't want to know unless we were ending the relationship.
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