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Old 04-14-2011, 04:26 PM
 
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That's what I say, too. However, many men write the same crap. Naturally, same goes to them. Enjoy your first priorities without me!
I sometimes also hear, "Im ALWAYS gonna look out for my kids!" ...As if they are doing the kids a favor. And shouldnt they already be doing that, no matter what? Whats going on in childcare training these days? Or does such a thing still even exist?
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Old 04-14-2011, 04:41 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I sometimes also hear, "Im ALWAYS gonna look out for my kids!" ...As if they are doing the kids a favor. And shouldnt they already be doing that, no matter what? Whats going on in childcare training these days? Or does such a thing still even exist?
IMO, these people actually believe that their prospective partners will think they're such good persons because they'll do everything and always for their kids first and cater to their every whim, and will be thrilled to be treated like second-hand citizens. Hello! You need to downplay, not upplay it, if you wanna have a snowball's chance in hell to find somebody to put up with all this!
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Old 04-14-2011, 04:51 PM
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haven't read the OP, but shouldn't parents automatically put there children first before all else?

I guess I'm just old school like that.
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Old 04-14-2011, 04:58 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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haven't read the OP, but shouldn't parents automatically put there children first before all else?

I guess I'm just old school like that.
Not really; not even when the children belong to both of them, which is not the case here. There are very few parents on this forum (the ratio is the same in real life, too) who know what parenting is about, though. I can count them on one hand.
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Old 04-14-2011, 05:00 PM
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Not really; not even when the children belong to both of them, which is not the case here. There are very few parents on this forum (the ratio is the same in real life, too) who know what parenting is about, though. I can count them on one hand.
I've got 0 experience raising kids.

I can say that whenever I was in trouble growing up, my parents were right there to help me through the problem. I'm going to do the same if I have kids of my own.
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Old 04-14-2011, 05:31 PM
 
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As a man I would just naturally assume the kids would come first. When a woman says that, it also sends a certain signal, or at least it did to me. I dated women with kids, and sometimes the kids were invited along on dates, it all depended on what we were doing and the age of the child. I never dated a woman with children and had any idea of having a serious relationship with her. I went out just to enjoy her company, have a good time and take her home. Most women with kids had a hard time understanding why I didn't want to have a serious relationship with them, most of them wanted more.
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Old 04-14-2011, 05:34 PM
 
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Why do the moms want to bring kids on a date? Why? It's a date... not a family outing.

Plus, not all stepdads are potential evil serial child molesters, I hope to God you're not buying that crap they spew on TV and "women's" networks. Here's some food for thought, stepmoms are just as evil.
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Old 04-14-2011, 06:00 PM
 
Location: Containment Area, NC
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I'll risk getting slammed too...

if their children really DO come first they have no business on a dating website.
Repped!
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Old 04-14-2011, 06:04 PM
 
Location: Containment Area, NC
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Awww cmon now. for some people that's the only method that works for them. everyone needs a night out once in a while. just because they use a dating site doesn't mean they are neglecting their children.
I have no issue with single parents dating. That's how they become married people again, if they so choose. I remarried.

I'll put my kids before most things, but not all things. As long as they are loved and well provided for, they'll turn out fine.

Probably better than the children of helicopter parents.
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Old 04-14-2011, 06:30 PM
 
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Yeah, I know I'll get slammed for this one but oh well. AND no, I did not have this with a women. I don't date women with children.

Let'em rip......
Well, I won't slam you, because one guy I dated told me the same thing (this was before we started dating...just getting to know each other really)...just in a kinder fashion. He actually had a son, too. I don't remember how I reworded it, but I did. I wasn't having any problems with getting response, but I figured he was a nice guy, and was just trying to help. So, it's a good point - perhaps there isn't a need to beat that drum too loudly on your profile. Still, I have always made it clear to all of my dates, that my son absolutely is a priority when it's called for. I'm sure that I've had some guys not call back after hearing that, but frankly, I'm not interested in those guys that find that to be a problem.

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