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I was just talking to a girl who used to work with me saying that her husband is quite annoyed with her because she lost her job a couple of days ago and now he says "Oh well guess I will have to pay all the bills this month " , I thought to myself is he married to you or are you his business partner ? Who acts like that with their spouse ? I thought this guy must be the biggest a hole I would ever meet . A marriage is not a business . who else feels this way ?
Different couples do the finances different ways and it's their business, not ours.
Personally, I had to do some adjusting when I quit working to raise our children. It was my husband's idea and he nagged me until I agreed, then whenever I bought anything he went on about me spending his money. I wrote up a bill for everything I had done for him that month...haircuts, clothing alterations, meals, etc...and deducted my purchases from the total. Told him he could pay me that amount every month, or I could go back to work, or I could never hear another word about his money. That was five years ago and it's worked so far...
I was just talking to a girl who used to work with me saying that her husband is quite annoyed with her because she lost her job a couple of days ago and now he says "Oh well guess I will have to pay all the bills this month " , I thought to myself is he married to you or are you his business partner ? Who acts like that with their spouse ? I thought this guy must be the biggest a hole I would ever meet . A marriage is not a business . who else feels this way ?
Your right..its a partnership..you support each other..Im sure she feels bad for losing her job...Now I could see if he said that because she lost her job on purpose or something like that. But just to be inconsiderate isn't called for.
I would not like hearing my husband talk to me that way.
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However; and I'm not implying your friend was embellishing...but without being there in person, we don't know exactly what was said.
Me. My boyfriend pays all my bills. My ex boyfriend whined about ever having to do any of it (despite the fact I did it for him before I was disabled). Hence the ex part. You really should plan it that you can make it on one income anyway. My previous relationship it was just thrown on the ex due to a disability and that setback was never discussed as we got together rather young and he avoided conversations like that. Current it was discussed before it was an issue. You would think if they got married they would discuss that "what if one of us lost a job". That hubby's comment seems a little like passive aggressive guilt tripping. And definitely not emotionally supportive at one of those times it can really be needed. I hope he was just joking.
I was just talking to a girl who used to work with me saying that her husband is quite annoyed with her because she lost her job a couple of days ago and now he says "Oh well guess I will have to pay all the bills this month " , I thought to myself is he married to you or are you his business partner ? Who acts like that with their spouse ? I thought this guy must be the biggest a hole I would ever meet . A marriage is not a business . who else feels this way ?
Sounds to me like he just made a statement and nothing more. Without being there, though, I don't know what his tone of voice was. But what you wrote that he said isn't a%%holish at all, IMO.
I would not talk to my wife that way, but on the other hand, most every woman out there wants equality, maybe that is his way of asking her for 'her share'. My wife and I keep our money separate, we have for almost 19 years now, and it works for us. No matter how you handle finances you need to be kind to your spouse, most of us would find it is tough living without them.
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