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Old 06-21-2011, 04:09 PM
 
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Actually, I don't think there is a standing definition for the term. You're all wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong....

Actually, I am more right than you in my definition, though you are not completely wrong either .

What are Daddy Issues?

"...the idea of having daddy issues relates more to the fact that a girl received inadequate or inappropriate attention from the father figure in her life. An absent father might trigger a girl’s desire to seek male approval elsewhere, and as a teen or young adult, to do so in a sexual manner."


http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmi...dy-issues.html

"These days, people say a woman has daddy issues when she appears to be seeking attention from men in order to compensate for the attention she may not have received from her father. When we talk about her daddy issues, we’re generally talking about things like aggressive flirtation, promiscuity, a tendency toward exhibitionism, and certain emotional hang-ups."
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Old 06-21-2011, 04:11 PM
 
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Actually, I am more right
OK, you two, stop it! Don't you know I'm the most right?!
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Old 06-21-2011, 04:14 PM
 
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I hear that come up in conversation occasionally saying so and so has daddy issues for whatever reason

It's the equivalent to calling a man a "mama's boy." Women have "daddy issues" when they have a physically/ emotionally absent or abusive father and it leads to a mistrust of the opposite sex. It can also lead to neediness, clinginess, fear of abandonment and excessive need for approval and acceptance from men, and problems with authority figures. Once a woman realizes she has this problem, it would be good for her to get with a good knowledgeable female counselor and work on these issues to overcome them. I personally believe female counselors are better for this purpose, because with male counselors, the woman's negative behavior patterns can be repeated or continued, even in therapy.
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Old 06-21-2011, 04:32 PM
 
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Gotta disagree with you my friend.

A woman like you are describing doesn't have "daddy issues" - those come from abandonment or lack of relationship with a father.

The woman you are describing is what we call a "daddy's girl". And they are no picnic to be married to either
I'm with loves, CPG. While you're right that a daddy's girl does technically have issues with her father, "daddy issues" usually refers to girls or women who have issues due to an absent or emotionally unavailable father.

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What is interesting is that men don't seem to have the equivalent "issues" with an absent or emotionally unavailable mother. Some of them do have issues, but they are different. You might encounter men who have a lot of pent-up (or not so pent-up) hostility toward women that seems to stem from a feeling that women cannot be trusted--but some women have the same issue with their fathers. You don't really see young men seeking the same attention from older women in an attempt to satisfy that need for maternal approval, like women with "daddy issues" do. Or are they out there?

Daddy's girl/mama's boy are equivalent, though.
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Old 06-21-2011, 04:38 PM
 
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I'm with loves, CPG. While you're right that a daddy's girl does technically have issues with her father, "daddy issues" usually refers to girls or women who have issues due to an absent or emotionally unavailable father.
...and then we come full circle back to post #2.
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Old 06-21-2011, 06:56 PM
 
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It primarily means you have or feel some kind of neglect emotionally from your father and seek a father figure verses an equal in a mate. Someone to take care of you, sometimes controlling - but not always.

It means the qualities you look for in a man are more daddy qualities in the way you want to be treated. You are the child.

Well said
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Old 06-21-2011, 07:11 PM
 
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I'm with loves, CPG. While you're right that a daddy's girl does technically have issues with her father, "daddy issues" usually refers to girls or women who have issues due to an absent or emotionally unavailable father.

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What is interesting is that men don't seem to have the equivalent "issues" with an absent or emotionally unavailable mother. Some of them do have issues, but they are different. You might encounter men who have a lot of pent-up (or not so pent-up) hostility toward women that seems to stem from a feeling that women cannot be trusted--but some women have the same issue with their fathers. You don't really see young men seeking the same attention from older women in an attempt to satisfy that need for maternal approval, like women with "daddy issues" do. Or are they out there?

Daddy's girl/mama's boy are equivalent, though.
This may be because it has been more socially tolerable for a young women to have a sexual relationship with an older man than for a younger man to have such a relationship with an older woman. The "cougar" phenomenon is only very recent, and even now is looked at askance.

Men with "mommy issues" will often take them out on SOs by acting childishly or impulsively, and letting their SO clean up the mess. It's different from being a "momma's boy", since he's not necessarily submissive to his mother's will. But it puts the couple in a parent/child relationship just like a young woman with "daddy issues" does.
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Old 09-15-2012, 09:42 PM
 
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I have lived with a fantasy man since age 5. It was Matt Dillon on Gunsmoke. My father gave me everything money could buy but no affection or love and didn't watch over me or teach me right from wrong and never was around as we had maids living downstairs. He was married 6 x's and my mother left when I was 6. You have no idea what it is like when you start having orgasms at age 5 and using a back vibrator and you don't even understand what it happening to you. All the time, My fantasy was to have a nice strong total man to take care of me, be there for me when I do good things and love me and praise me but also watch over me and make sure that I walk the line and don't do bad things or make bad choices. To love me unconditional no matter what I do. To support me in anything I venture out to do. To discipline me however he sees fit if I do bad things or behave badly. Just to care enought to do it all. Because I didn't have that, I have lived my whole life looking for the perfect man to fill that role and to tell him this is what I need yet instead of finding it, I found the wrong guys for the part. I ended up holding all this inside me my whole life. I now am with a fair, right and just man but he is so nice and kind and non violent that he could never be both loving and a disciplinarian at the same time. Now I don't know what to do. I can't talk about it cause I fear he will leave me and feel he is just not the right man for the job. Too old to start looking again as I have a good man. I guess I will go to my grave with these desires yet if he could fill those shoes, I think it would make me happy, easier to live with and to feel truly loved for the first time in my life. I just don't know how to go about it. Any suggestions?
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Old 09-15-2012, 09:48 PM
 
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The first thing that comes to my mind is molestation, because the few girls I knew who hated their fathers were in fact molested.

The next thing is a projection of hatred toward the father because of the way he treated the mother and/or the kids in the family.

Since I'm not familiar with the dynamics of alcoholism because I dislike it, girls whose dads drank seemed to have issues, too. I knew a girl in college with a 3.7 in Biology who turned down medical school to rescue (and marry) someone just like her dad.

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Old 09-15-2012, 10:40 PM
 
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Okay, some of these definitions are really different from what I learned. I always thought it was when a daughter had a bad relationship with her father and she stereotyped her SO being the same way because of her former bad experiences.

Don't know what to believe anymore.
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