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Exactly, the boyfriend that I had was CONSISTENTLY 30-60 minutes late for any plans with me. But he was NEVER late for work. So, it wasn't a tardiness issues, it was a "SactoLover Girl is not one of my top priorities" issue.
That's the thing. If he's capable of showing up for work on time, if he knows the date and time of every upcoming hockey playoff game, or whatever, it's not just that his troubled mind is burdened with heavy thoughts. It's that he doesn't care enough to show up and keep a date.
If they guy is being good in a relationship , treating her well etc.. don't you think you guys are over exaggerating just a bit that he doesn't care about the relationship... ?
I mean come on, some people are just late, he said he'd work on it and he felt bad. the OP even said she understands , so I don't think theres much of a reason to leave the guy lol.
My husband is a lot like this. Very nice guy but very bad about time in general, and verbal commitments in particular. If you have ever done Myers-Briggs, he's a classic P. He's sort of constantly living in the moment and is sort of always making up what he's going to do next as he goes along. He finds having to live on any kind of schedule confining.
That said, we did have to come to a happy medium on this because like everything else, it gets much more complicated when you are married. Going with the flow is a lot more stressful when you have kids. He has gotten a lot better but not without a lot of persistance and patience on my part, and effort on his part.
Only proceed further if you think he has a good heart open to change, and you two can communicate about this. Its a very irritating trait to live with.
If they guy is being good in a relationship , treating her well etc.. don't you think you guys are over exaggerating just a bit that he doesn't care about the relationship... ?
I was in the same boat before...it's not that the guy doesn't care...it's just that he is not being considerate.
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I mean come on, some people are just late, he said he'd work on it and he felt bad. the OP even said she understands , so I don't think theres much of a reason to leave the guy lol.
I heard that from the ex (he will work on it and felt bad) and that's why he's an ex and I now have a husband who doesn't do that. Granted, he has other flaws as I do but I can live with his messy office. If both people in the relationship are someone who arrives at events late, they can certain understand as opposed to someone such as myself who is a stickler for time.
If they guy is being good in a relationship , treating her well etc.. don't you think you guys are over exaggerating just a bit that he doesn't care about the relationship... ?
I mean come on, some people are just late, he said he'd work on it and he felt bad. the OP even said she understands , so I don't think theres much of a reason to leave the guy lol.
The problem is some people aren't happy unless their partner is perfect in every way, or at least devotes 100% of their attention and effort on them. Then they wonder why they're alone. Not speaking for the OP in this case, but I see a lot of instances where someone will hone in on the one thing that irritates them while overlooking all the good qualities their partner possesses. Even when that one thing is rectified, there will always be something else that just isn't "perfect" and it's an endless tug of war trying to "fix" this person.
OP already stated he's perfect in every other way. It's up to her to choose whether or not his tardiness is a dealbreaker or something she can learn to work around. She's also acknowledged she isn't perfect either (who among is?), and I'm wondering if maybe there's not something else going on in her life that is stressing her and this is just the thing that pushed her over the edge.
Exactly, the boyfriend that I had was CONSISTENTLY 30-60 minutes late for any plans with me. But he was NEVER late for work. So, it wasn't a tardiness issues, it was a "SactoBankerGirl is not one of my top priorities" issue.
Exactly, the boyfriend that I had was CONSISTENTLY 30-60 minutes late for any plans with me. But he was NEVER late for work. So, it wasn't a tardiness issues, it was a "SactoBankerGirl is not one of my top priorities" issue.
It's happened to me a few times. Believe me, I know the feeling of not being important when I should be.
The look I get on my face would murder someone in those situations.
The look I get on my face would murder someone in those situations.
Hmm, you should tell us on the Astrology thread about your potential Scorpio placements.
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If both people in the relationship are someone who arrives at events late, they can certain understand as opposed to someone such as myself who is a stickler for time.
