Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I think this hits the nail on the head for me. Honestly, in almost every other way he's perfect. Well-educated, considerate, kind, stable, and supportive. In almost a year of being together, this was really our only big, blow out fight. Normally if something is bothering one of us we talk it out like rational adults. It had been a bad week for both of us, and I was rather petty about the whole thing. Even then, once everything cooled off he told me I had every right to be as mad as I was and he was genuinely upset that things had gotten as far as they did. No one is perfect and it comes down to whether or not I can deal with this flaw, because I certainly know that I'm not always easy to deal with.
I can agree with the other posters telling me that I should probably back off and stop reminding him. I don't give him enough credit- he honestly has been fixing the little things. But I've also been really, really bad at communicating what I've found frustrating. I'm sure I must have seemed absolutely nuts flipping out at something he thought was coming out of the blue. Relationships would be a whole lot easier if they didn't require all this...communication.
Thanks for all the responses.
But if it's bothering "you" so much, it is a big deal. Everyone has their things, hangups, whatever that they cannot tolerate. He obviously is pushing you at yours. However, if you have never said anything to him up until now, then it is your fault. But, if you have been telling him and he still does it, then yes he is flakey and inconsiderate and maybe you better find someone who shares the same relationship values. It almost seems like he's playing games. Just for the fact that you called him an hour and a half prior and he still comes late. He is either the flakiest person alive or suffers from serious memory loss. Either or, it is not your problem. What might seem like nothing to some people, mean everything to others. Because not only is he late all the time, but that say's he is not thinking too much about you and that his time is more important. Those are some serious selfish qualities in a person, no matter how "perfect" they are in other aspects.
I'm not saying to dump him, but I would have a long sit down with him and explain to him that this is just one of those things that "you" cannot tolerate in a relationship. Explain to him that you tried to minimize its impact on you, but at the end of the day, it just annoys you to no end where leaving seems like the only solution to your unhappiness. The problem with this is, he might still not change and you will then have to back up your ultimatum. Mind you this would be a last suggestion. This is after you have tried other things first. But ultimately your happiness is important and if he can't see what this is doing to you, then maybe he is not so "perfect".
That's too funny! So am I! We need to know the rest of the story, though. Tij says I owe "THE look" to Scorpio (not sure if he meant Moon or Venus as I have both in Scorpio). Visit there so we can dissect that frog!
Well, I would agree slightly, in that we don't know that of this man. She didn't say if she was the only person he treats this way, which would indicate that maybe he's playing games with her. But if this is an overall personality trait then it's NOT about her, its just how he is.
She still has to decide if she can live with that, but I don't think its fair to assume the man has malicious or manipulative intent.
Well, I would agree slightly, in that we don't know that of this man. She didn't say if she was the only person he treats this way, which would indicate that maybe he's playing games with her. But if this is an overall personality trait then it's NOT about her, its just how he is.
She still has to decide if she can live with that, but I don't think its fair to assume the man has malicious or manipulative intent.
You're entitled to your opinion, of course. I just don't need to see a 2nd rotten apple to know what a rotten apple is. That's a classic textbook behavior almost every woman has experienced and many have shared.
That's too funny! So am I! We need to know the rest of the story, though. Tij says I owe "THE look" to Scorpio (not sure if he meant Moon or Venus as I have both in Scorpio). Visit there so we can dissect that frog!
I'll have to check it out. Don't know much about Astrology, only that I'm basically compatible with most other signss
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.