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I'm gonna drop by my mom's house tomorrow, after they get home from church. Won't be a long visit...I have plans with my son, for MY mother's day. I usually take her out to eat dinner, but I really wanted to spend this mother's day more with my son, than my mom. My mom is probably not happy about that - I'm the only one of the kids that live here, but oh well. I've always found Mothers's Day to be annoying for just that reason. Do I sound selfish or what.
Nope, not at all. I do the same thing with my kids. My kids spend the day with me and then we'll go to my mother's the next week-end to celebrate Mother's Day with her.
I'm gonna drop by my mom's house tomorrow, after they get home from church. Won't be a long visit...I have plans with my son, for MY mother's day. I usually take her out to eat dinner, but I really wanted to spend this mother's day more with my son, than my mom. My mom is probably not happy about that - I'm the only one of the kids that live here, but oh well. I've always found Mothers's Day to be annoying for just that reason. Do I sound selfish or what.
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Originally Posted by donie1
Nope, not at all. I do the same thing with my kids. My kids spend the day with me and then we'll go to my mother's the next week-end to celebrate Mother's Day with her.
I don't think its selfish at all. It's the way its supposed to be, your spouse and your children should be your primary family. Your parent are import too, don't get me wrong.
It's so much easier being a monk - just endure the initiation piercings, swallow the live bugs and deal with the month naked in the snow - piece of cake.
I don't think its selfish at all. It's the way its supposed to be, your spouse and your children should be your primary family. Your parent are import too, don't get me wrong.
For us, we just have a fur child.
Yeah, I know, people hate that saying......
Fur child is just like a human child. I used to have both.
On a lighter note - texting CD as a lifeline from the bathroom on a date looking for advice has to go down in the books as a Blue Ribbon moment.
So there I was, thinking "Run away, run away!" The how was problematic, I did not want to be rude or hurtful and having been away so long from the scene I was at a loss. Who to ask? My friends would reply with something along the lines of "Bwaa ha ha ha welcome to dating part 2" and so on. Then it occurred to me that I knew where I could go get impartial advice mixed in with a lot of welcome to dating part 2 comments lol And so the plan was hatched.....
At any rate given more time to talk to her and think on it after I believe she wasnt psycho but rather putting the package out there so that were I to be uninterested she had not invested anything. I think? lol It was a good learning experience if nothing else.
Oh, Crab. I didn't realize your mother was still living!
I haven't been talking about it because its such a downer and I come here to get away from it. I have already gone through a feel sorry for myself period followed by a sad period then a get a grip on yourself and move forward time followed that. Now even though she hasn't yet passed some of the grieving has already happened I think. This time will pass.
I haven't been talking about it because its such a downer and I come here to get away from it. I have already gone through a feel sorry for myself period followed by a sad period then a get a grip on yourself and move forward time followed that. Now even though she hasn't yet passed some of the grieving has already happened I think. This time will pass.
It took my husband a month to die and my father a week. I, for some reason, thought your mom would be like my father but it sounds like she's hanging in there like my hubby.
It's exhausting and draining. Oh, and how I hope I never have to go through that again! But life is life and we'll see what happens.
In a way, it is comforting that by the time they die, you aren't in shock but you do still go through emotions. I was mad at my husband for over a year after he died. He could have prevented it and didn't. But I realize now, we sometimes make bad choices that turn into a fatal choice.
Take good care of yourself, Crab and reach out to us, your friends and family to get through what you're going through with your mom. It's easier that way. Don't hold your emotions back either because they'll come out in the most inappropriate time.
Shouldn't there be a point & time when you should no longer need to recognize Mother's Day? I mean once a mom always a mom (dad too), but when the kids grow up, move out, start their own families the mom & dad are no longer mothering & fathering.
Shouldn't there be a point & time when you should no longer need to recognize Mother's Day? I mean once a mom always a mom (dad too), but when the kids grow up, move out, start their own families the mom & dad are no longer mothering & fathering.
I would think you honor them for what they ARE, not what they WERE.
Of course I could be wrong - I haven't had parents for many years now.
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I usually take her out to eat dinner, but I really wanted to spend this mother's day more with my son, than my mom. My mom is probably not happy about that - I'm the only one of the kids that live here, but oh well. I've always found Mothers's Day to be annoying for just that reason. Do I sound selfish or what. 
