Men: Do you like women who are on the quiet side? (girlfriend, friend)

[Johnny Vanderburgh]

Originally Posted by KatieCountrycm

The ones that don't talk much.

I don't know. What does she look like?

[Trimac20]

I care more WHAT somebody has to say, not how MUCH they say. I wouldn't mind a quiet girl if she at least had something to say, an observation, a wry comment, anything to indicate she had a mind of her own. I wouldn't want some empty vessel with no mind of her own, yet I wouldn't want a loud vacuous horn either. A girl who is opinionated and talkative but also talks substance is fine by me.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

I care more WHAT somebody has to say, not how MUCH they say.

I agree, although they have nothing to say, that makes it awfully hard to get to know them. But as for people who talk a lot, what matters to most is WHAT they talk about. Too often, the people who talk a lot talk about things that really only interest them. But they want you to listen and they even take it personally if you don't show sufficient interest. I think that's pretty selfish. If I'm talking about something and the listener looks bored, I won't take it personally. I'll simply change the subject to something they'd like to discuss. Unfortunately, I think some talkers are too self-centered to do that. They don't care that you're bored. They just want your attention, which is why it's no surprise that many of these talkers are heavy into Facebook and Twitter. They can write about whatever they want, no matter how mundane, and they have plenty of people who'll read it.

[TheFix]

No.

[DrEarth]

Sometimes, but when conversation begins to be like pulling teeth, it gets old.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

I agree, although they have nothing to say, that makes it awfully hard to get to know them. But as for people who talk a lot, what matters to most is WHAT they talk about. Too often, the people who talk a lot talk about things that really only interest them. But they want you to listen and they even take it personally if you don't show sufficient interest. I think that's pretty selfish. If I'm talking about something and the listener looks bored, I won't take it personally. I'll simply change the subject to something they'd like to discuss. Unfortunately, I think some talkers are too self-centered to do that. They don't care that you're bored. They just want your attention, which is why it's no surprise that many of these talkers are heavy into Facebook and Twitter. They can write about whatever they want, no matter how mundane, and they have plenty of people who'll read it.

Don't get me started on twitter ...who honestly cares what brand of toilet paper you use to wipe your ass, or whether you are stuffing your face with essence of vomit?

Sorry, back to the topic. In my experience, how quiet a person isn't a good indication of whether they have interesting things to say. I have a saying the more that comes out the less that goes in (well I just made it up just then on the spot, lol). Often quiet people think more, and thus have more to actually chew the jaws of intellect on.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

Don't get me started on twitter ...who honestly cares what brand of toilet paper you use to wipe your ass, or whether you are stuffing your face with essence of vomit?

Sorry, back to the topic. In my experience, how quiet a person isn't a good indication of whether they have interesting things to say. I have a saying the more that comes out the less that goes in (well I just made it up just then on the spot, lol). Often quiet people think more, and thus have more to actually chew the jaws of intellect on.

In regards to Twitter, a tool is only as good as how you use it. It's one thing to inform your followers that you got laid off and need help finding a job. Then it's a very useful networking tool. But I think a lot of people just it as a brain dump. Whatever pops into their head, onto Twitter it goes. Someone the other day used the term 'verbal diarrhea'.

But you're right about quiet people often being the ones who think more. I tend to be more reserved in social settings and sometimes it takes effort to get me to talk at length about something. Part of that is because I like to sit back and observe and not just spout out whatever thought pops into my head. People who are more extroverted have a tendency to get their foot stuck in their mouth.

[Stumbler.]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

I care more WHAT somebody has to say, not how MUCH they say.

Yes. The most sensible answer in this thread. Reps to you Trimac.

[rlrl]

my cousin's wife (who is from another culture) for years just sat there at the table not saying anything but always seemed to have a peculiar grin on her face, as if she was judging everyone

anyone who didn't notice the grin would have thought she is just a quiet shy type

well she turned out to be a nightmare B on wheels!

[pkrplr1]

Originally Posted by KatieCountrycm

The ones that don't talk much.

no. my wife is outgoing and talks a lot and i like it.