Why did he ignore me!? (date, man, friends, casual)

[Osito]

Originally Posted by CarolVa1977

and then he will label you desperate.

You should ignore him too LOL

You're right, that'll bring him right back. Some guys are so weird.

[misplaced1]

Originally Posted by smalltowngirl25

So don't call him(even though he wants me to call him)? What if he thinks I'm ignoring him and ignores me after class again?

Honestly if I really felt someone was ignoring me, I wouldn't call. When you see him again be friendly and see how it goes, what he says, how he acts.

[miyu]

Originally Posted by smalltowngirl25

He was sort of flirting, but I really didn't hear all that much. I wasn't that close, just pretending to do some school work. Then I left because it was clear he was not ending the conversation. This is a guy that gave me his phone number. He initiated that. I gave him mine after that. We do flirt sometimes and hang out after class. He also got that started. I feel he ignored me, but if I call him I don't want to act like it bothered me and like I'm desperate for his attention. It just kinda hurt my feelings a little.

He is a PLAYA! Lots of guys give girls phone # just to test out the waters and see if she is datable. Some girls move faster (i.e. put out) than others, what can I say? I've had tons of people give me their numbers and say "we should hang out and have dinner!" but I never act on it because I can sense the player behavior. I doubt you are really missing out on much. You should definitely broaden your horizons, do some playing of your own (not necessarily sexually, but don't fixate on this one guy).

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by smalltowngirl25

Well what I'm wondering is if I don't call him and show interest in him, he's not going to show any in me in return and he could be interested in another girl too(which doesn't make him a player). So I lose.

So then, make a call. Relieve all of this "pressure" and "worry" and find out for yourself! I wish you luck!

[optiflex]

Originally Posted by smalltowngirl25

This semester I became friendly with this guy from class. We sometimes talk or hang out after class. A couple of days ago we exchanged phone numbers. But yesterday in class he didn't say much to me except "see ya" as I waved goodbye to him and after class he started talking to somebody on the phone(99% sure it was a girl). So I waited for a bit hoping he would end the conversation, but he didn't. He sometimes hot and sometimes cold. I feel this time he ignored me. Now I'm not even sure if I should call him. Am I wrong to feel this way?

Let me ask you a question.

Lets say you were busy, on the phone with your mom and she told you a family had just died. You look over and that guy you sorta like and you said "see ya" earlier in class is staring at you. You continue talking to your mom, and occasionally glance over there and he's still standing there, staring. Now you're on the phone saying "this weirdo stalker I barely know is just standing there, staring mom what should I do?" Try ignoring him, hunny and leave!

But that's not what you were doing, right? OMG he has it all wrong..i better call him, huh?

See we can assume anything with a little effort.

[onihC]

Originally Posted by smalltowngirl25

Well what I'm wondering is if I don't call him and show interest in him, he's not going to show any in me in return and he could be interested in another girl too(which doesn't make him a player). So I lose.

That is what guys have to go through all the time and sometimes they end up going out with the girl and other times they just don't. That's life. Those that don't take risks in life don't achieve much.

[optiflex]

It is truly amazing how people get on here and ask total strangers to try and figure out what other people are thinking. They tell their side of it, always leaving out tons of details and then online clarvoyants happily tell them exactly what's going on. It's so wonderful I could cry.

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by optiflex

It is truly amazing how people get on here and ask total strangers to try and figure out what other people are thinking. They tell their side of it, always leaving out tons of details and then online clarvoyants happily tell them exactly what's going on. It's so wonderful I could cry.

HAHA! Welcome to public forums!

[chica_bella813]

I think it is simple he isnt that into you

[smalltowngirl25]

Originally Posted by optiflex

Let me ask you a question.

Lets say you were busy, on the phone with your mom and she told you a family had just died. You look over and that guy you sorta like and you said "see ya" earlier in class is staring at you. You continue talking to your mom, and occasionally glance over there and he's still standing there, staring. Now you're on the phone saying "this weirdo stalker I barely know is just standing there, staring mom what should I do?" Try ignoring him, hunny and leave!

But that's not what you were doing, right? OMG he has it all wrong..i better call him, huh?

See we can assume anything with a little effort.

LOL How am I a stalker? It's not like I was standing there watching and listening to him. I'm not desperate or pathetic enough to want to listen to his conversion. I was finishing up some stuff I was working on and waiting for the professor to get back from his office with some stuff for us. So I thought we would do what we always do and get together for a bit after class, but I had no choice other than sit there and deal with him ignoring me and talking to someone else on the phone. I told you the story from both sides as far as I know. That we usually talk after class or go hang out in the library or cafe and he just kind of blew me off.