Would You Have Relationship With This Woman ? (dating, long distance, women)

[bensjen]

I met her 6 years ago. I was attracted to her at first look.
Anyway we dated for 5 months, and it was amazing because i finally met someone who completely understand me in so many ways. I was as if we had been together for a very long time. After digging a little to her past, I think she has a commitment problem. She never has any serious relationship before. That's why we were never exclusive. But then she moved to another city for a job. I suggested that we have long distance relationship but she said no because she thinks it's to complicated.

She went back to here 6 months after that. I contacted her again and said we should get together again, she said no. She wanted to focus on her job. After a long conversation i decided to stepped aside. Short story, i met a friend of a friend who live in that another city. He said that she was pretty 'adventurous'. Different men almost every week. I didn't really buy that because in the middle of conversation he said that he asked her out and she said no, so i though he probably just felt rejected by her.
But then i saw her three times in 4 months at a various places, all with different man. That was 4 and a half years ago. I stopped contact her at all. Since then i never has a serious relationship until now just casual dating once in a while .
3 months ago i met her in a flight, she was seated right beside me. We had a long talk. She said that she's dating but no one serious (that one i know)/ But the she said she miss me,it was like a hard strike to me because i've missed her too but even if we go back it'd probably lead nowhere since she has that commitment problem. So i said to her we should talk again sometime.
Should i held my hope high to be with her or not ?
That 5 months relationship was also apparently her longest.
What should i do ?

[ferretkona]

Run away, quickly.

[Prince_Frog]

I'd probably not keep your hopes high.

She obviously doesn't want to commit to anyone, so just keep her as an acquaintance and move on with your life.

The only person that can change her is her, if she doesn't want to change, then let her be.

[yankeegirl313]

Nah.......

[D217]

Originally Posted by bensjen

3 months ago i met her in a flight, she was seated right beside me.

I find this beyond coincidental..

That is telling you something right there, but what, I have no idea.

[crisan]

Originally Posted by D217

I find this beyond coincidental..

That is telling you something right there, but what, I have no idea.

I was thinking the same thing. OP I think I would run.

[WaltHowe]

Originally Posted by bensjen

I met her 6 years ago. I was attracted to her at first look.
Anyway we dated for 5 months, and it was amazing because i finally met someone who completely understand me in so many ways. I was as if we had been together for a very long time. After digging a little to her past, I think she has a commitment problem. She never has any serious relationship before. That's why we were never exclusive. But then she moved to another city for a job. I suggested that we have long distance relationship but she said no because she thinks it's to complicated.

She went back to here 6 months after that. I contacted her again and said we should get together again, she said no. She wanted to focus on her job. After a long conversation i decided to stepped aside. Short story, i met a friend of a friend who live in that another city. He said that she was pretty 'adventurous'. Different men almost every week. I didn't really buy that because in the middle of conversation he said that he asked her out and she said no, so i though he probably just felt rejected by her.
But then i saw her three times in 4 months at a various places, all with different man. That was 4 and a half years ago. I stopped contact her at all. Since then i never has a serious relationship until now just casual dating once in a while .
3 months ago i met her in a flight, she was seated right beside me. We had a long talk. She said that she's dating but no one serious (that one i know)/ But the she said she miss me,it was like a hard strike to me because i've missed her too but even if we go back it'd probably lead nowhere since she has that commitment problem. So i said to her we should talk again sometime.
Should i held my hope high to be with her or not ?
That 5 months relationship was also apparently her longest.
What should i do ?

Hey you like her? Then give it another shot but always be aware of the possibility of her breaking off with you and maybe keep your doors quietly open to other new women.

[blondiel]

Cherish the five months that you had with her. If you want to date, fine. You probably won't be her only man.

[D217]

Originally Posted by bensjen

Since then i never has a serious relationship until now just casual dating once in a while .

See, I kinda think you're both in the same boat here.

Alot of times women/men will date around and not feel that spark with anyone, but if the two of you have it, I say go for it.

I mean, why not?

[StaggerLee22]

RUN TO THE HILLS!