How to Over Compensate For a Lack of Sense of Humor And Charisma? (men, love)
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I have highlighted quite a few negative statements about yourself that you mentioned. Only 1 time did I hear a, "I'm a decent looking guy" statement.
You have to build yourself up. Somehow you have to look in the mirror and believe you are a great catch!!! No matter what the majority has told you in the past...that's where those comments will stay...in the past.
Today is a new you!!! Everything is about having fun now. You need to smile, laugh and enjoy life. BE YOURSELF!!! If this is not you to be smiling and laughing then you ought to try it.
When others around you say the weather is bad or this is bad or that is bad...you combat that with a positive remark. "I don't know...I'm happy to be walking and talking. LOOK the bird is singing!!!"
I have seen mentally challenged individuals walking hand in hand with a partner. Believe me there is someone out there for you. They will love you even if you are not a humorous guy. Everyone has their talents...find yours.
Excellent advice. All to easy to not follow for odd reasons of the human psyche. (Hey, I have been guilty many times ).
The title of this thread is part of the problem. You shouldn't have to overcompensate for anything. But we see this all the time. Raging-Hetero brought up just a few examples. The bottom line is that you should learn to make the most of what you have instead of dwelling on what you think are your deficiencies. I agree with a previous poster that you first need to change how you view yourself. Rather than dwell on what you don't have, focus on what you do have to offer.
This thread should be addressed to women, because they're pro at knowing how guys usually overcompensate for particular deficiencies.
Short guys become aggresive. Guys with tiny penises buy flashy cars. Stupid guys hit the gym to get ripped. So on and so forth.
No, a humorous guy is something women for the most part really need, since they seldom have a lot of it themselves...
just think about it; when was the last time a woman made you laugh and how many times have you made women laugh just looking back the past week or so?
just look around anywhere; the guy is ALWAYS the one to make the girl crack up, it's hardly ever the other way around.
I'm not trying to bash any sex here, I'm just sayin' girls have a lot more to damand in a guys than the other way around.
Oh and for the "think-positive-hippies" ye I bet the dudes problems will run away from him as soon as he starts ignoring them, sounds about right! <irony>
just look around anywhere; the guy is ALWAYS the one to make the girl crack up, it's hardly ever the other way around.
Not in my life. Most of my boyfriends have said that my sense of humor and ability to make them laugh was one of things that attracted them. And I know lots of funny ladies.
so you're the rare one out of a 1000 edit; rephrase
most of the time when laughing at a girls jokes, guys do it to get in bed....I'm not saying it's your case, your're probably a funny girl, but I'm talking about the vast majority.
Do you have any close friends you act funny around. One of the secrets I've learned is to treat a girl like you've known her a while. Bring up topics you would bring up with a friend. If she looks at you like your a moron, you,ve just weeded out a crappy partner early on. You may find someone who follows along and actually has things in common with you. There are great down to earth women out there. The best way to find them is to be down to earth yourself.
No, a humorous guy is something women for the most part really need, since they seldom have a lot of it themselves...
just think about it; when was the last time a woman made you laugh and how many times have you made women laugh just looking back the past week or so?
just look around anywhere; the guy is ALWAYS the one to make the girl crack up, it's hardly ever the other way around.
I'm not trying to bash any sex here, I'm just sayin' girls have a lot more to damand in a guys than the other way around.
Oh and for the "think-positive-hippies" ye I bet the dudes problems will run away from him as soon as he starts ignoring them, sounds about right! <irony>
"No" as in I'm wrong ? What part of my post are you disputing, because I couldn't decipher that from reading yours.
Btw, I was being sarcastic but even if I wasn't, your post would still be confusing.
Not in my life. Most of my boyfriends have said that my sense of humor and ability to make them laugh was one of things that attracted them. And I know lots of funny ladies.
If your conclusion is that women are generally just as funny as men then I'd disagree.
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What part of my post are you disputing, because I couldn't decipher that from reading yours. 
