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View Poll Results: Who would you rather have be your wife (read the post)?
SAHM 41 29.29%
Career woman 57 40.71%
I'm a woman 42 30.00%
Voters: 140. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 04-29-2011, 03:38 PM
 
Location: Duluth, Minnesota, USA
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Let's say you already make enough on your own to support your family with a moderate level of comfort and go on a week-long vacation in minimal luxury once or twice a year. That assumed, which wife would you prefer:

SAHM: Very traditional. Does not have a career and has not had a career since she was pregnant with your first child, 13 years ago. Watches the children at home. Cooks seven nights a week, except when the family eats out, which is rare due to budget constraints and her quality of cooking, which is excellent. Almost all household chores (except those traditionally done by males) done by her and your eldest daughter. Sexually passive and traditional. Happy and satisfied in her role.

Career woman: Aggressive in her career, at which she makes as much as you. Takes the kids to a daycare. Cooks one or two nights a week; the remainder of the nights you eat out, you cook, have left-overs, or convenience food is prepared.. Household chores divided almost equally among the partners. Sexually aggressive. With her additional income, you are able to live to a higher standard, e.g. a 65" flat screen instead of a 42"; BMWs and MBs instead of Buicks and Fords. Happy and satisfied in her role.

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Old 04-29-2011, 03:41 PM
 
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Anymore it takes 2 incomes to run a household. In my position I'd say a career-oriented woman.

However, if I made a ton of money, she would be able to decide on her own. I would love her regardless.
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Old 04-29-2011, 03:43 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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Why throw in the extra differentiator of sexually passive or aggressive? You're complicating things. You now have two independent variables. It's not a controlled comparison. What about an aggressive SAHM or passive working woman?

My response ignoring the extra variable: SAHM.
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Old 04-29-2011, 03:48 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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SAHM, I'd rather have the kids raised by her than someone else. However she wouldn't necessarily fall under the description you posted.
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Old 04-29-2011, 03:53 PM
 
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I'm in a position where I asked my GF if she wanted to stay at home. My income is more than adequate for our family. She chose to work as she likes her job. I personally don't care which she chooses. Whatever makes her happy.
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Old 04-29-2011, 03:53 PM
 
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Depends how much money I was making at that point, duh.

If the family needs the extra income, better to work. If not, better not.

Context matters.
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Old 04-29-2011, 03:54 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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The implication that the only type of woman who would stay at home is a mother SAH _M_ is retarded.

There are plenty of women who stay home to care for their home and their husband who are unchilded.

20yrsinBranson
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Old 04-29-2011, 03:54 PM
 
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I'd rather be a SAHM except that most men of today just don't earn enough $$$ to cut it. Probably like 99.5% of situations I would not choose to stay at home.
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Old 04-29-2011, 03:56 PM
 
Location: texas
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career woman.....I like the independence
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Old 04-29-2011, 04:00 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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I'd rather be a SAHM except that most men of today just don't earn enough $$$ to cut it.\

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Depends how much money I was making at that point, duh.

If the family needs the extra income, better to work. If not, better not.

Context matters.

Did you read the original post?




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Let's say you already make enough on your own to support your family with a moderate level of comfort
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