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So i recently broke it off with my girlfriend. *I didnt know what to do since i have never been in a ldr before. *We were trying to make this long distance thing work by seeing each other at least once a month. The last time i saw her everything was perfect. We spent a great weekend together enjoying each others company. I hadnt seen her in 5 weeks at the time. *When were together everything is fine. I love this girl and i just love being around her and talking to her about anything and everything. We wanted to get married and i was actually planning to propose to her soon. * But i guess just being in this ldr and the fact that were both military makes everything so much harder. **
I had told her that i felt uncomfortable with her hanging out with her male friends all the time. Like on weekends she would go to some guys house(thats married but his wife is back where hes from) and a bunch of other guys. They all start drinking and she gets drunk and has someone bring her back to where she stays. *Then she just does random thing with a couple guys. Like movies, go out to eat, ride bikes etc.. * She told me that there are no females to hang out with and that shes not doing anything wrong and that i dont have anything to worry about. Back home the majority of her friends are guys and i dont really have a problem with it then because shes known them for awhile. *I guess i believe that the majority of males cant befriend females without ulterior motives. Especially ones in relationships. *Shes not going to just sit in her room by herself all weekend and i understand that i guess. *Its just a messed up situation. *For the first time i dont know what to do. If we were civilians i wouldnt be ok with that at all. *But considering were military and this ldr i dont know what to do. *I feel like shes the one for me and i dont want anybody else. *I have no one to talk to where im at since i just moved to the area. So i thought i would give this a shot. *
What should i do? *What would you do? *Am i wrong for feeling uncomfortable?
I would feel uncomfortable too and I think it would be only a matter of time till she ends up doing something with one of her guy friends with or without you finding out.
Don't feed into the "you're just insecure and need to trust her" B.S.
I think it is inappropriate to be hanging out at their houses and getting drunk when you're in a serious relationship.
If you've been going out a year, you've seen each other 12 times. That's nothing, I probably wouldn't share much, or feel much about someone I had gone out with so infrequently.
you are just insecure and need to trust her
but in a ldr that will never have a chance to change
so move on to something more productive.
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