Is it really that bad to be alone? (date, how to, girls)
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A good old fashion shaming tactic. Well I'd rather be a sissy. I'm sorry but I'm not handing over my dignity to anyone. There's no one in this world worth that.
eh, that'll change when you meet a girl that takes your breath away . And you know you're pretty negative, I'm not shaming you. I just don't sugar coat.
eh, that'll change when you meet a girl that takes your breath away . And you know you're pretty negative, I'm not shaming you. I just don't sugar coat.
Oh sure that might happen but if she doesn't feel the same way about me than I walk away feeling like an idiot for wasting my time.
As a guy, I always feel like I have to jump through hoops to just to get a date. Even though having companionship would be nice It's just not worth the amount of effort and stress it takes to get a girlfriend. I'd rather not go out and embarrass myself or be labeled a creeper. I rather focus on my school and career.
Unfortunately my roommates don't feel the same way and say I should play the game and if I don't than I will become a sad, lonely and miserable old man.
Is being alone really that bad? I rather spend my life alone than humiliate myself trying to get a woman's attention.
I'm kinda with you on this subject....I've run into many inconsiderate girls lately...I'll be nice and send a text or message asking them when they might want to do something and after about a week of waiting for a response to simple questions I message them and tell em I'm not waiting around like this for a response anymore and I cut em off and they think I'm crazy for that...
Well as a guy I beleive it is way harder for us to meet people nowadays due to lots of factors and mainly to the sheltered lives they had as kids and the brainwashing a majority of women have been through in our society...I have been alone a majority of my life....
I'm a good looking, funny, and goal oriented person, that happens to just come from a poor background and is stuck in that kind of life at the moment....
I find it a waste of time to even conversate with women when I go out anymore because you have to put in too much effort for little reward..I get lonely sometimes like everyone else, but I'd rather be alone than to gamble on wasting my time and energy on selfish people..at least in my case I attract those types
I'm kinda with you on this subject....I've run into many inconsiderate girls lately...I'll be nice and send a text or message asking them when they might want to do something and after about a week of waiting for a response to simple questions I message them and tell em I'm not waiting around like this for a response anymore and I cut em off and they think I'm crazy for that...
Well as a guy I beleive it is way harder for us to meet people nowadays due to lots of factors and mainly to the sheltered lives they had as kids and the brainwashing a majority of women have been through in our society...I have been alone a majority of my life....
I'm a good looking, funny, and goal oriented person, that happens to just come from a poor background and is stuck in that kind of life at the moment....
I find it a waste of time to even conversate with women when I go out anymore because you have to put in too much effort for little reward..I get lonely sometimes like everyone else, but I'd rather be alone than to gamble on wasting my time and energy on selfish people..at least in my case I attract those types
well gee, there's your problem! You're asking her out via text, how informal and impersonal . Not to mention the fact that texts can get lost in the shuffle.
You will never escape pain in life, alone or not. No one leaves this earth unscathed.
No, it's not bad to be alone and many end up that way even if it isn't their choice. However, your reasoning is fear based which is not conducive to even a happy, chosen solitary life. This sends you on a spiral of self loathing because you know deep down you are avoiding what most people brave.
Last edited by myrevenge; 05-10-2011 at 01:54 AM..
They really aren't the same thing. I'm willing to struggle to get a job because I need one to survive. If you don't work you don't eat. You also don't keep clean clothes on your back and a roof over your head. All of which are essential for survival.
I've never heard of a guy dying from not having a girlfriend or not getting laid.
You think you're going to say "hi" and some girl is gonna fall on her back and spread her legs while simultaneously loving you forever? Get a grip. Lose your dignity? No one can take your dignity, like honor it can be given away but it cannot be taken. Sometimes things happen that we dont deserve both good and bad but for the most part you get exactly what you earn. Right now you are getting exactly what you are putting into relationships. You want a girl? Be yourself. Give everything, withhold nothing. You want to blame, look in a mirror.
This guy killed 4 women and shot several others because he was lonely. So sad.
And yet there are several other people in this world that are alone or even lonely that don't do that. Loneliness didn't force him to nuts and kill those women he chose to.
well gee, there's your problem! You're asking her out via text, how informal and impersonal . Not to mention the fact that texts can get lost in the shuffle.
Well geez if you would have realized that I was making a general point in my first post instead of going into the whole story and details of the situation in my personal life then you would see what I mean, but my point was that I did what they requested and I sat around waiting after they say they will respond ASAP and then I see them on the facebook account they gave me saying how they were at a bar one night then somewhere else another night then off the next day and then they were watching a tv show....
all the while they said they would let me know ASAP when they would be free to meet up after they initiated the whole thing in the first place...I don't have time to wait a whole week to see if someone wants to hang out that friday...
I have people in my life to attend to as well...they should have not written ASAP or they should have said I can't do anything this week let's try next week...something simple enough like that kind of response would suffice and allow me not to wait on them to set my schedule for Friday
You think you're going to say "hi" and some girl is gonna fall on her back and spread her legs while simultaneously loving you forever? Get a grip. Lose your dignity? No one can take your dignity, like honor it can be given away but it cannot be taken. Sometimes things happen that we dont deserve both good and bad but for the most part you get exactly what you earn. Right now you are getting exactly what you are putting into relationships. You want a girl? Be yourself. Give everything, withhold nothing. You want to blame, look in a mirror.
Wow dude I don't remember saying anything about wanting a girl and I sure as hell didn't say I expected women to just spread there legs for me as soon as I say "hi". I said I would rather choose to be alone.I don't know why people feel as if I'm obligated to go out there and chase girls.
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