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Old 05-11-2011, 06:59 AM
 
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Sorry to hear this, Lucario.

I recommend that you contact an attorney and also ask your wife if she's done so already, so that you can be prepared. Don't be passive in this process, regardless of whether you really want it or not. You need to protect yourself and your interests.

I wish you and your family the best of luck.
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Old 05-11-2011, 07:01 AM
 
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Walt.........you don't want my s2bex. Trust me on this.
Sure I do. I know how to treat a wife if I only had the chance. Trust ME on this.
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Old 05-11-2011, 07:05 AM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Sure I do. I know how to treat a wife if I only had the chance. Trust ME on this.

I know how to treat a wife, too. That's not always enough.


Hell. I'll send you her number. But don't say I didn't warn you.
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Old 05-11-2011, 07:17 AM
 
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Sure I do. I know how to treat a wife if I only had the chance. Trust ME on this.
No, you don't. Heck neither do I. Single people have no experience to draw on in regards to that. Your assumption is that there is only one side to the equation in terms of treating a wife makes you less likely than most to have any good knowledge about it. You seem unaware that the wife is a person in her own right that may just disagree with any treatment that you come up with.

Sorry Lucario that your marriage is falling apart.
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Old 05-11-2011, 07:31 AM
 
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I know how to treat a wife, too. That's not always enough.


Hell. I'll send you her number. But don't say I didn't warn you.
Warn her first
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Old 05-11-2011, 07:33 AM
 
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No, you don't. Heck neither do I. Single people have no experience to draw on in regards to that. Your assumption is that there is only one side to the equation in terms of treating a wife makes you less likely than most to have any good knowledge about it. You seem unaware that the wife is a person in her own right that may just disagree with any treatment that you come up with.

Sorry Lucario that your marriage is falling apart.
I believe in me. One of the important things is self esteem? I have that faith in myself that if I had the chance, if a woman loved and married me, what I'd do in that position would turn out right.
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Old 05-11-2011, 07:40 AM
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Location: Hartford CT
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I am really sorry to hear this. My advice to you is before you divorce, make sure you personally did everything you could to save the marriage. If she still wants to go through with it, then so be it. I just got divorced, and even though it was the most painful thing I ever went through in my life, I can look back and say I tried the best I could to save our marriage. Doesn't take away the pain, but I don't go to bed thinking, what if I had done this, or what if I had done that. Hope it all works out for you.
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Old 05-11-2011, 08:28 AM
 
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I believe in me. One of the important things is self esteem? I have that faith in myself that if I had the chance, if a woman loved and married me, what I'd do in that position would turn out right.
Self esteem based on a fantasy is fragile and will not last. Perhaps you would do all the right things in a marriage but your wife would not. Since women are not automatons and suffer from many and diverse personalities, backgrounds and mental capacities, there is no guarantees that what you think would make your wife happy, actually would.

Doing your best is certainly a worth while goal. If you are fortunate the other person is the marriage feels the same way.
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Old 05-11-2011, 08:39 AM
 
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Self esteem based on a fantasy is fragile and will not last. Perhaps you would do all the right things in a marriage but your wife would not. Since women are not automatons and suffer from many and diverse personalities, backgrounds and mental capacities, there is no guarantees that what you think would make your wife happy, actually would.

Doing your best is certainly a worth while goal. If you are fortunate the other person is the marriage feels the same way.
My self esteem isn't based on any fantasy.

I have a diverse personality, put it this way, if I were a baseball player I could play all the positions except maybe pitch. But yes I can "change up" if needed. Unless my wife were in it for dishonest reasons or were a COMPLETE lunatic, I'd make the wife happy.
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Old 05-11-2011, 08:43 AM
 
Location: Toledo
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I'm sorry that you're going through this Lucario. I know that you said you're worried about your kids, but I'm sure they sense the discord in your marriage. The divorce will be hard for them at first, but in the long run it may work out for the better.

My parents decided to stay in their toxic marriage for us kids even though we really wanted them to just divorce.
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