Are you attracted to women over 30?

[Trimac20]

I'm under 30 and yes, I'd date a women over 30. Preferably below 35 though.

[jerseygal4u]

Originally Posted by mco65

I think a 30, 40 and 50 year old woman can be very attractive. Women that care about their looks, generally stay attractive well into their 50s. I feel sorry for guys who think 30 year old women are not attractive, especially when those guys turn 50.. I bet they change their minds then.

The last line is so true.On the dating sites I see 90% of the 50 year olds wanting 30 to 40 year old women. The 50 year old men don't seem to want the 20 year old women.

[TabulaRasa]

Hee, I didn't even MEET my SO until I was 30 (he was 26, and the pursuer). I actually am in much better shape, too, in my 30s as opposed to in my twenties, when I was starting out in my career, working as many hours as were thrown at me with no regard for setting boundaries, getting ****ty sleep due to that, eating like crap while on the fly, and consequently not having sufficient energy to properly exercise. You live, you learn, but my lifestyle is loads healthier at 35 than it was at 25, and it shows in my appearance.

At any rate, I feel pretty glad that I picked a winner - a man in his thirties that doesn't write off women in their thirties, because apparently, that's a more precious commodity than I every would have thought.

[TaoistDude]

It's been over 25 years since I even dated someone under 30! LOL

[Coldjensens]

Only 1.

[TheGreatGarfield]

yeah i'm attracted to women over 30.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by josh u

For you guys over 30, do you prefer women near your age, older or younger?

I used to date some women in their early/mid 30's. With few exceptions, they turned out to be bitter, distrustful of men, and emotionally scarred from previous relationships.

In addition, I find so few women over 32 to be attractive physically.

How would you know how old a woman is, just by looking at her? Women stay in shape like never before, and if they haven't had kids, they stay young-looking a lot longer. Looks can be very deceptive.

If you're finding bitter women with relationship-history baggage, there's something wrong with your selection process.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

The thread, nearly 1 year old, has as its title, "Are you attracted to women over 30?"

Yes. It's been nearly a decade since I turned 30, so a good percentage of the women I dated and/or found attractive have been at least 30.

Thinking back to my late 20s and early 30s, when I still "managed" to date women who were in their 20s, there surely were advantages. It goes without saying that a women in her mid-20s looks younger and better than a woman 10 years older. They are often more open and have less emotional baggage. Their views are still somewhat malleable.

However, now that I'm very close to middle age, I see that there are great things in women who are over 30. They tend to be:
- more confident
- surer in their identities and personalities
- free (or freer) of insecurities insofar what people think of them
- humbler: they've lived longer, have had their bumps along the road, and consequently lack the stuckup-ness, idealism, and naivete that women in their 20s often struggle with
- more aware of what they want and like, and don't want/don't like

Of course, this is a blanket observation. I have seen very mature, well-rounded, and emotionally healthy women in their 20s. I have also met some women in their 30s who had more baggage than a cargo plane, and as bad as this was, they were oblivious to it - but the baggage flowed out through their attitude, alienating others and making it obvious to others they were bitter and unhappy.

As far as looks go: the difference between the two age groups is that women in their 20s simply have that fresher look, and those who are less than 25, that girlish, quasi-adolescent look. Physically and sexually, as women, sure, they can draw my attention. But even if they dress sexy or what not, I'm simply no longer as attracted. Compare that to women in their 30s - yes, their complexion isn't as great; they may have a few wrinkles, or a few pounds more. But they have that elegant, ladylike charm that just radiates; the way they carry themselves is far more eye-catching to me than the aesthetically pleasing but otherwise simple or quasi-kid-like style certain girls in their 20s have.

And as if that weren't enough, the generational gap plays a role when they talk. A woman who is 24 or 25, a few years out of college, and in her first job... I will not be able to relate to her very well. She's going through something I went through in the mid-1990s. But a woman who is 32, 33, or 35, who has a mortgage, who is struggling with aging and the desire to marry and wants to settle down... that's a woman whose priorities are more parallel to mine.

One of my good friends, who turns 38 very soon, is a knockout in every sense... incredibly witty, highly intelligent, professionally successful, physically beautiful (tall, long-legged, great figure, exuberant smile, deep and huge eyes), very feminine, has great style, and a warm heart. Sure, I can tell she's aged... but I'd take her any day of the week over a similarly pretty but much less mature, less knowledgeable, and plainly less "well-lived" 26 or 27-year-old woman.

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by jerseygal4u

The last line is so true.On the dating sites I see 90% of the 50 year olds wanting 30 to 40 year old women. The 50 year old men don't seem to want the 20 year old women.

I understand. Even the hottest 18-25 year old women would be like kids to a 50-year-old man.

[Cyber Surfer]

I don't know where you're seeing these attractive 30 somethings, near every one around my age are quite large and unfit. Don't get me started on the excessive makeup ones. Felt like I was kissing a scented candle!