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It might be #2, very close with #1 being looks, but it will never be #1. Fact.
You are correct. I've been told many times I have a "great personality" by women and none of them have had any interest in me. I have also been called "funny". Kiss of death.
Do you have any facts to back up your assertion, OP?
I certainly need both good "looks" and good personality before I'll be interested in dating someone. Since most of my adult era dating has been via online dating, I'd have to say that personality and compatibility factors came first, as in many cases I didn't even have a photo to go by before I met the person. However, upon meeting, the physical attraction had to exist as well. So, in my experience, appearance does NOT have to be the primary factor, but can come second.
Sounds to me like the OP has some growing up to do or simply doesn't know what he/she is truly looking for.
No, I do know what I'm looking for. Believe me, I don't like that things are the way that they are, but at least I'm coming to accept it.
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Do you have any facts to back up your assertion, OP?
I certainly need both good "looks" and good personality before I'll be interested in dating someone. Since most of my adult era dating has been via online dating, I'd have to say that personality and compatibility factors came first, as in many cases I didn't even have a photo to go by before I met the person. However, upon meeting, the physical attraction had to exist as well. So, in my experience, appearance does NOT have to be the primary factor, but can come second.
You mean actual studies done by respected institutions? No, because no scientist worth his salt would waste time on this, these are just observations that I (and many, many others) have made.
A_Gazela, even if it's an "I don't care what anyone says, I think he's hot" attitude, it still fits my statement. You will take the person you find incredibly physically attractive but has a less-than-stellar personality over the not-very-attractive guy with a heart of gold.
A Stellar personality is a beautiful thing to have at life in general, but when it comes to dating, what you're looking for is a Compatible personality.
Chemistry is no 1. But it does not necessarily means looks however. To me it has to be a package.
Great post as always, Mooseketeer!
I feel the same way. He doesn't have to be conventionally good-looking and approved by the society in general or my circle in particular, but he has to be attractive to ME!
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We all know when someone starts off with he/she has a great personality, they have the face only a mother could love. 
