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cdubs3201 · 05-12-2011, 07:32 AM

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Originally Posted by recuerdeme

So I had gone out on a couple of dates with this one guy and everything was great. He looked, sounded and acted wonderfully.

Well 3rd day comes around and it's a lunch date. We work in the same area so I was like great finally I can take a break during the day to see my honey (if he ever became my "honey" oh and I never call my s/o honey so I don't know why I just typed it... twice! but back to the date). Immediately upon entering the restaurant I notice something on his lip. At first I thought maybe it was a bread crumb but as I got closer it was very apparent, a bump.

I was having an Austin Power moment (MOLE... if you are familiar with the movies) I mean there was a big white/pink/purple (however the saying goes) elephant in the room. He never mentioned anything and I didn't either. We ate, talked and thanks to it being in a public and crowded place I was able to end the date with just a prolonged hug (no kiss!)

Now I'm wondering did I overreact. I guess this is unintentionally associated with my other thread about being with someone with a chronic disease, Now I have to answer my own question and I guess for me I would be more inclined to continue dating someone with a non-visible ailment rather than something that is visible.

Any who the guy has been calling incessantly (well normally but it seems incessant now that I'm slowly/rapidly losing interest) should I ask about the bump? What else could it be but something contagious and life long... I think I'm going to end things but should I say it is because of the bump or just "we are not compatible"

I have to say, this is typical of you. Clearly you're not without your own flaws and struggles.

donie1 · 05-12-2011, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by plantsareit

Yeah she may go on dates, but will shoot herself in the foot with that attitude. Trust me, you're ahead of her.

It's a him.

recuerdeme · 05-12-2011, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by cdubs3201

I have to say, this is typical of you. Clearly you're not without your own flaws and struggles.

We all have flaws and struggles

Some of the responses have been quite ridiculous.

D217 · 05-12-2011, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by recuerdeme

Some of the responses have been quite ridiculous.

What's funny (to me) is that any and every other thread about STDs people are saying they would never risk it.

Now that there's a visible lip sore, people are telling you to go for it!

recuerdeme · 05-12-2011, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by D217

What's funny (to me) is that any and every other thread about STDs people are saying they would never risk it.

Now that there's a visible lip sore, people are telling you to go for it!

Exactly... I think there was a 99% "h*ll no" response to dating someone with an STD and now this 180...

I chuckle just a little.

donie1 · 05-12-2011, 10:01 AM

Really you and D217 have jumped to that conclusion that a small bump on someone's lip MUST be an STD??? Really.

Marlow · 05-12-2011, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by recuerdeme

Exactly... I think there was a 99% "h*ll no" response to dating someone with an STD and now this 180...

I chuckle just a little.

Although fever blisters and herpes are both caused by viruses, there is a world of difference between the two. Educate yourself about the viruses and then make a decision.

Also, you don't even know what the poor guy has. Maybe it's just a zit, or an ingrown hair, or some other kind of temporary skin ailment.

No one is urging you to date someone with an STD--just to approach the situation like and adult.

donie1 · 05-12-2011, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Marlow

Although fever blisters and herpes are both caused by viruses, there is a world of difference between the two. Educate yourself about the viruses and then make a decision.

Also, you don't even know what the poor guy has. Maybe it's just a zit, or an ingrown hair, or some other kind of temporary skin ailment.

No one is urging you to date someone with an STD--just to approach the situation like and adult.

Exactly. Don't jump to conclusions. It just sounds like you're assuming alot and missing out on good opportunities.

D217 · 05-12-2011, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by donie1

Really you and D217 have jumped to that conclusion that a small bump on someone's lip MUST be an STD??? Really.

Both of you need to hurry up and hide from the world. Hurry..disappear.

You can go ahead and calm down already.

I've read enough of the herpes/cold sore debates on here to see just how paranoid most people get when it comes to their sexual health.

I haven't actually seen the sore, so I haven't quite called it herpes...yet.

*Sixy* · 05-12-2011, 10:45 AM

Maybe the guy just wacked his mouth on something...never had that happen to you? My kids do it all the time, and then the cut on their lip turns into something far uglier than it would have if it was on dry skin.

My cat has caught my lip with his claw and I had a nasty looking thing on my lip that took about a week and half to clear up...thankfully my husband didn't divorce me becuase he thought I contracted an STD from someone!