3rd Date... Thank gawd it was in a public place (dating, movies)
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So I had gone out on a couple of dates with this one guy and everything was great. He looked, sounded and acted wonderfully.
Well 3rd day comes around and it's a lunch date. We work in the same area so I was like great finally I can take a break during the day to see my honey (if he ever became my "honey" oh and I never call my s/o honey so I don't know why I just typed it... twice! but back to the date). Immediately upon entering the restaurant I notice something on his lip. At first I thought maybe it was a bread crumb but as I got closer it was very apparent, a bump.
I was having an Austin Power moment (MOLE... if you are familiar with the movies) I mean there was a big white/pink/purple (however the saying goes) elephant in the room. He never mentioned anything and I didn't either. We ate, talked and thanks to it being in a public and crowded place I was able to end the date with just a prolonged hug (no kiss!)
Now I'm wondering did I overreact. I guess this is unintentionally associated with my other thread about being with someone with a chronic disease, Now I have to answer my own question and I guess for me I would be more inclined to continue dating someone with a non-visible ailment rather than something that is visible.
Any who the guy has been calling incessantly (well normally but it seems incessant now that I'm slowly/rapidly losing interest) should I ask about the bump? What else could it be but something contagious and life long... I think I'm going to end things but should I say it is because of the bump or just "we are not compatible"
Ask him? Awkward...
If he does have herpes, you can work around it and still have a good relationship. So if you're thinking you want to continue to get to know him, don't let this be a deal breaker. Ultimately it's his responsibility to speak up and tell you, ideally before any type of contact occurs that could transmit this to you. I had a girl tell me early on and I appreciated her honesty about it. But not all people are that mature.
I guess there's no harm in asking, but it just seems so awkward to me.
Stress also can lead to a cold sore or blister outbreak. This includes mental and emotional stress, as well as dental treatment, illness, trauma to the lips or sun exposure. {Columbia University College of Medicine}
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