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Old 05-16-2011, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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not to burst anybody's bubble here but, there are very few women most men find "stunning" or beautiful. Many are attractive, pretty, cute. Think of the word stunning. Really? Very few. sorry.
Actually, IMO “stunning” is easier on the tongue, even if the woman is not conventionally beautiful. It may refer to her manners, the way she carries herself, talks, dresses, etc. things I personally sum up in the word “aura.” Oh, btw, at least some of these qualities ought to be true so that the compliment doesn't sound fake!;-)

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Thank the gods he didn't say you have a great personality!
Ain’t that the truth?!

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Old 05-16-2011, 09:27 AM
 
Location: My House
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Oh good grief.

He said you were very pretty. That's a compliment.

If he said "Um... yeah... you seem like a nice girl, but..." then, yeah... that's a brush off.

Very pretty for a woman is equal to very handsome for a guy.

I'd rather that men don't constantly refer to me a hot, beautiful, or gorgeous.

It sounds too much like they're overdoing it in some fake attempt to get laid.

Mind you, it's nice to hear that stuff now and then, depending on the context.

But, "very pretty" is a perfectly acceptable way to tell a woman that she looks good.
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Old 05-16-2011, 09:39 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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Everyone... hold on .

Give the woman a break! Geez, EVERY woman is self conscious at some point in SOME way. She was just brave enough to voice it (or type it). It may be petty, but how many of us haven't over thought something when it came to guy/girl they were really into, or really attracted to. Both sexes do this, though women tend to overthink things more... let's lay off a little bit and perhaps just answer her question without the insults .

Anyway...In my opinion... I think that you SHOULD take it as a compliment. Until he proves otherwise, assume that he sincerely thinks you are pretty. Some men don't have a larger, more complex vocabulary. And if it turns out that he was just being nice, and isn't attracted to you then his loss .
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Old 05-16-2011, 10:02 AM
 
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I don't think you have anything to worry about -- based on your C-D photos alone, I think you look amazing!!

I agree with what several other posters mentioned here: that maybe he could be just a little shy, or didn't know exactly what / how to say it? But I honestly think he meant it as a genuine compliment, not to put you down or anything like that.

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So I figure, maybe if I don't adore him, then I won't be phased by his not seeing me as beautiful, gorgeous, or stunning (which are words men use to describe women to whom they're actually attracted). So I presume this guy isn't physically attracted to me due to the wording in "very pretty".

I like to think I'm a reasonable person so I know this must seem very silly, but it's been my observation that a man does not call his girlfriend or wife "very pretty"; they use "beautiful" and "gorgeous" or "stunning," instead of "pretty". These are words men use to describe women they think are generally attractive, but are not specially attracted to them. AKA, the nice way to say "eh you're alright, but not my type."

Would I be correct in believing this man is just not that into me, and to just blow him off and stay just friends?


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Old 05-16-2011, 10:07 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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I agree with what several other posters mentioned here: that maybe he could be just a little shy, or didn't know exactly what / how to say it? But I honestly think he meant it as a genuine compliment, not to put you down or anything like that.
We can agree on something, Knight! Even though I do enjoy compliments like the next person, I also know the suavest talkers are not the best relationship material... As always, I'm talking about knowledge, not practice!
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Old 05-16-2011, 10:11 AM
 
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We can agree on something, Knight! Even though I do enjoy compliments like the next person, I also know the suavest talkers are not the best relationship material... As always, I'm talking about knowledge, not practice!
Lol, you might be surprised there Sierra...I've actually agreed with quite a few of your C-D posts, in the past Not by any means all mind you, but I'll just say there have been quite a few more than one

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Old 05-16-2011, 12:32 PM
 
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This thread kind of illustrates why I have better luck with men than "very pretty" women.

You agonize over every little word like this. Guys can feel when you are dissecting every comment they make. It makes them uncomfortable. Also, it indicates a lack of confidence. You could be beautiful, stunning and smokin hot, but if you are lacking in self-esteem, it's going to hurt your love life.

I am very ordinary-looking and I know it. BUT, I give off a very confident, fun-loving vibe. I don't seek constant validation from men.
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Old 05-16-2011, 12:42 PM
 
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Default Hate being called "very pretty" by a man I adore

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So I figure, maybe if I don't adore him, then I won't be phased by his not seeing me as beautiful, gorgeous, or stunning (which are words men use to describe women to whom they're actually attracted). So I presume this guy isn't physically attracted to me due to the wording in "very pretty".

I like to think I'm a reasonable person so I know this must seem very silly, but it's been my observation that a man does not call his girlfriend or wife "very pretty"; they use "beautiful" and "gorgeous" or "stunning," instead of "pretty". These are words men use to describe women they think are generally attractive, but are not specially attracted to them. AKA, the nice way to say "eh you're alright, but not my type."

Would I be correct in believing this man is just not that into me, and to just blow him off and stay just friends?


AddEdit: This thread is related.

The Difference Between "Cute" and "Hot/ Sexy" and "Pretty"


Ok, you asked the question. My answer would be a man calls his significant other 'beautiful', 'gorgeous', or 'stunning' when she actually is. Looking at your picture in your profile, if that is you, I couldn't call you beautiful, but I could say you're pretty and not be stretching the truth. Would you feel better if your guy lied to you?
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Old 05-16-2011, 12:55 PM
 
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Ok, you asked the question. My answer would be a man calls his significant other 'beautiful', 'gorgeous', or 'stunning' when she actually is. Looking at your picture in your profile, if that is you, I couldn't call you beautiful, but I could say you're pretty and not be stretching the truth. Would you feel better if your guy lied to you?
Ah...but beauty, is in the eye of the beholder though, now isn't it?

Photo #8, from the OP's C-D album...in my own humble opinion, she is quite clearly beautiful, and certainly stunning

Just my own $0.02 though...
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Old 05-16-2011, 01:07 PM
 
Location: La lune et les étoiles
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I don't understand the OP's issue with the "very pretty".

"Very pretty" is a respectful compliment; someone who wants to provide a compliment without implying greater interest
"Wow, you look hot" is much more of a sexual connotation
"You're beautiful" or "you're gorgeous" is much more intimate and for people who know you very well; or for someone is simply extraordinarily attractive
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