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I have a colleague who's from Eastern Europe, has a typical firecracker personality (emotional), but also has several nice features like a nice body and when she's happy, she's really friendly.
Besides saying hi and bye each time she goes by my desk (not all women in my office do that...), she comes up to me asking me questions even though I'm not her supervisor, so she trusts my judgement in that respect.
One day when she was about to take off for vacation, she was super cheery and stood in front of my desk while I was seated, looking really happy, with a fun voice...the energy of a teenage girl essentially, except she's in her 20s.
I was debating with myself whether to stand up, hug her and give her a kiss on the cheek wishing her a safe trip.
Since she returned, she's been touching me now and then...just today I was have a snack in the breakroom alone when she walked behind me and put her hand on my shoulder, then when I looked up, she smiled coyly. Hmmmm I wonder if she's playing with me or this is actually a sign she'd like me to step it up and approach her more often. I work in an office with a 2:1 female:male ratio and I'm usually strictly business with the women there. Except for the fact she smokes (which I can't stand and am moving away from), she's kind of cute. I like how she's pretty flirty. There is of course a possibility she's just being friendly and I'm reading too much into it.
I have a colleague who's from Eastern Europe, has a typical firecracker personality (emotional), but also has several nice features like a nice body and when she's happy, she's really friendly.
Besides saying hi and bye each time she goes by my desk (not all women in my office do that...), she comes up to me asking me questions even though I'm not her supervisor, so she trusts my judgement in that respect.
One day when she was about to take off for vacation, she was super cheery and stood in front of my desk while I was seated, looking really happy, with a fun voice...the energy of a teenage girl essentially, except she's in her 20s.
I was debating with myself whether to stand up, hug her and give her a kiss on the cheek wishing her a safe trip.
Since she returned, she's been touching me now and then...just today I was have a snack in the breakroom alone when she walked behind me and put her hand on my shoulder, then when I looked up, she smiled coyly. Hmmmm I wonder if she's playing with me or this is actually a sign she'd like me to step it up and approach her more often. I work in an office with a 2:1 female:male ratio and I'm usually strictly business with the women there. Except for the fact she smokes (which I can't stand and am moving away from), she's kind of cute. I like how she's pretty flirty. There is of course a possibility she's just being friendly and I'm reading too much into it.
What would you do in my shoes?
Lol, a couple of things.
1) In Europe, kissing on the the cheek and hugging is generally the norm with friends, and even acquaintances. However, I don't find it to be acceptable office behavior.
2) She's definitely flirting with you. Be honest, do you think she's out of your league?
3) Following question number 2, if you're an attractive male, then she's definitely giving you signs she's interested. For girls, the biggest indicator is touch.
4) Also following question number 2, if you're not a very attractive male, and you think she's out of your league, then she's either playing with you, or you've been put into the friend zone.
5) If you want her, you have to change the game. I completely side with you, because at work, I don't flirt or socialize with the ladies. But if you do want this girl, you're gonna have to.
Hey BKSnook, I like the way you analyzed the situation.
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Lol, a couple of things.
1) In Europe, kissing on the the cheek and hugging is generally the norm with friends, and even acquaintances.
That's true. 2-3 kisses on the cheeks is perfectly normal. However I tend not to be so forward with women at work keeping my distance to simple greetings. I haven't yet kissed or hugged them but I suppose that could change.
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2) She's definitely flirting with you. Be honest, do you think she's out of your league?
Yes and I don't think she's really available. She dresses stylishly and has a bangin' bod, probably keeps trim from smoking. She's wearing a ring, I forget which finger. I could ask her am indirect question about relationships to find out whether she has a boyfriend, but it's like I'm really itching to confirm.
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4) Also following question number 2, if you're not a very attractive male, and you think she's out of your league, then she's either playing with you, or you've been put into the friend zone.
My guess is she's playing with me. No other woman in the office acts like her though. I must admit, the hand on the shoulder with the coy smile / giggle threw me off.
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5) If you want her, you have to change the game. But if you do want this girl, you're gonna have to.
Hmmm, well maybe I can just be friendlier and visit her desk more often, ask platonic questions like her opinion on various topics. However I must admit, I'm rather taken by the color of her eyes...
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I completely side with you, because at work, I don't flirt or socialize with the ladies.
Usually I'm strictly business, however it's possible that I'm too uptight. If anything, maybe I could ask the huggable girl to go clothes shopping with me. She dresses stylishly and I could use a make over...so I could use her in that sense or at least try. Because as others said above, smoking is deal breaker for anything beyond that.
Using your office as a dating pool is generally considered unprofessional at best, stupid at worst. Don't poop where you eat.
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and stood in front of my desk while I was seated, looking really happy, with a fun voice...the energy of a teenage girl essentially, except she's in her 20s. 
