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I think most of the replies your gotten so far are from women.
Being a guy I'm going to tell you that marriage isn't even a consideration for anyone of us that has our head screwed on straight at 5 months. I think your guy was simply being honest with you and not trying to blow smoke up your butt. A lot of guys would have simply told you what you wanted to hear. I would give the guy huge credit for being honest when he could have lied to you and you would have ate it up.
If a guy is looking to get married at 5 months he's either desperate, insecure or just plain nuts. Let the relationship mature a year or so and see where it goes. You hardly know each other at this point. .
A lot of posters on here have said as males they knew they wanted to marry the one they did early on in the relationship. Most of them seem very normal. This was in other posts. Maybe some guys just know what they want early on.
Give the relationship a chance to develop, for Pete's sake!
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Originally Posted by lrizzle84
I have been dating someone for almost 5 months now and he says that for right now all he sees is dating in our future. I asked him if that means he's just killing time or if that meant it was just too soon to say that yeah he sees something there. He says that because he doesnt see it now doesn't mean hes not open to it later. He cares about me and doesn't want to break up but I'm starting to feel like it may go nowhere. When asked why he wanted to try dating me he said his thoughts were "why not, let's see what happens"
So am I overthinking things, is saying we're not at the place where we'd change our lives for each other a bad thing?
Let me get this straight: you've been dating this "someone for almost five months," and you're perturbed that "all he sees is dating in your future"? Well, you've only been "dating" him for 180 days or so, and it sounds like he's taking the right approach in your relationship while you're ready to have a future with someone you really don't know that well. Give your relationship a chance to develop and grow, that's what dating is all about. Furthermore, placing time quantifiers on your relationship at this stage of the game is silly. Try to learn to enjoy each others company and not over think things. Good luck.
All I ever do is date, so I say if it ain't broke don't fix it. Too many people think marriage is some sort of absolute in the life and some people make others so miserble they should never Marry.
Have fun with him while you look for someone else who will give you what you want. That's most likely what he's doing as well.
Right- he must be cheating because he says he can't predict the future (huh?).
5 months is too soon to be talking marriage, though he should be open to the possibility. Give it another 5 months.
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Give the relationship a chance to develop, for Pete's sake!
Right- he must be cheating because he says he can't predict the future (huh?). 
