do you think it will be easier for women in my generation to get married after 35 yo? (singles, divorce)

[goodlife36]

NO. Men prefer younger women. When I was in my early twenties, my boyfriend was in his early thirties. The twenty-something year old girls at my job are married to thirty-something year old men. Women are usually most attractive in their twenties. Although, I do have a friend who got married for the first time at 50. I guess if you are really attractive, it does not matter.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by Back to NE

No one has mentioned that people who have been unmarried their whole lives (35 years and counting) are less likely to get married because they become set in their ways. And because people actually get choosier because they've been "filling the void" in different ways, so they won't be eager to bring someone in their lives unless they are really fantastic.

Divorced folks back on the market are more likely to remarry, it's built into their lifestyles.

I think the idea that men become more set in their ways as they get older is a stereotype that a lot of women buy into. Sure there are a lot of guys who are like that. But there are plenty who are just the opposite. I've found that many younger men are the ones who are too inflexible. It's no wonder their marriages fail. They're not use to change and resist it as much as possible whereas the guy in his 30s or 40s has learned that life changes and you have no choice but to adapt. If the 30something never married man has higher standards, it's probably because he's seen other men go through bad marriages and divorce and wants to make sure he doesn't have the same experience. As for divorced men who are now back on the market, many aren't in any rush to get married again because they have such bad memories of married life to begin with.

[Swan Dive]

Originally Posted by CancerianMoonPrincess

I'd have to say yes. I think as the years go by, less people are getting married young so that they can finish their education, start a career, and mature in general so they can keep up their marriage. And plus there are very sexy men in their 30s. It's not like as soon as you turn 30, you're not sexy anymore.Trust me, I sometimes wish I was old enough to date them. Well, legally speaking I am (19 almost 20), but I'm nowhere near being mature enough for them.

are you kidding? your age is perfect, you're not 14 , 19 /20 is ideal for guys in their 30's. don't let anyone say otherwise

[darrensmooth]

Originally Posted by Swan Dive

no are you kidding? your age is perfect, you're not 14 , 19 /20 is ideal for guys in their 30's. don't let anyone say otherwise

Why someone older than 30 would want to be with someone 19/20 for anything other than sex boggles the mind. If its just sex ok, but that becomes boring after a while, if its for a full relationship, I question your maturity, experience level in adult relationships. Typically you would have next to nothing in common if you are in your 30's dating someone who is 19, different experience levels, different places in life etc.

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by darrensmooth

Why someone older than 30 would want to be with someone 19/20 for anything other than sex boggles the mind. If its just sex ok, but that becomes boring after a while, if its for a full relationship, I question your maturity, experience level in adult relationships. Typically you would have next to nothing in common if you are in your 30's dating someone who is 19, different experience levels, different places in life etc.

That's what it comes down to, maturity level. And that some guys might be trying to make up for lost time if they had no luck in their 20s. I think it's a waste for young girls to be missing out on young boys. I didn't go that route in my 20s. I enjoyed the young 20-somethings I dated when I was in my 20s.

[Superdessucke]

Too open of a question, depends on what you have to offer and what you want. It really boils down to a numbers game. If you want to assess your odds, and you do by your question, you have to be honest enough to look at the big picture.

Statistically, women tend to start to lose their physical beauty after 35. But then again, women who are attractive with good attitudes and not a lot of baggage also tend to get removed from the dating pool by that point. So if you keep yourself in good shape and have a decent attitude, you'll be above the competition in your age group, which is good.

It also depends on what you want. If you want a tall, highly paid, single professional man your age to 5 years older, you're going to be facing some stiff competition, both literally and figuratively. Nowadays, career and mental stability comes much later than it used to, and women still mature faster than men. So "normal" women are tending to go 5-10 years over their own age, sometimes more. They pretty much have to because too many guys under 35 are not fully mature and/or are not yet established. So that 38 year old good looking corporate lawyer you've got your eye at the martini bar after work is probably going to have options in the 26-34 range if he's not a complete douchebag.

Unfortunately, one thing which hasn't been kind enough to change with our increasing educational and career demands is biology. Even with modern medicine, the possibility of kids becomes dramatically less likely for women after 35. We date and mate for this reason, whether we admit it or not. All things being equal, a man is always going to be naturally more attracted to a woman who can have them than one who can't, even if he says he doesn't want kids. It is what it is.

On the other hand, if you're not trying to hit the "top" of the male gene pool, your options will open up considerably. Not saying you'll have to date some 5'5" overweight tow truck driver with a GED but you may have to change your standards from the ones you had in your 20s. If you accept that, you'll probably be just fine.

[kinkytoes]

Originally Posted by Superdessucke

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Not saying you'll have to date some 5'5" overweight tow truck driver with a GED ...

Funny image.

[bolillo_loco]

Originally Posted by jerseygal4u

Reason I ask is because I see a lot of older women 35 and over who say they have a hard time dating. I'm not too far from 35(29). However,my generation will have men from the baby boomer years to date,so will we have a better chance of finding a marriage partner because of more men available? Or is that a silly thought because most are married?
I'm getting nervous reading these threads,I get the feeling life is over at 30(according to a lot of threads)

I'd like you to keep one thing in mind, you're 29, and I'm 46. I bring this up because I missed being a baby boomer by six months. If I've caught what you said correctly, when you're 35, you'll have a plethora of men aged 53 through 72 to choose from. Is that correct? I guess that you’re looking forward to men that are at least 18 years older than you. Not that I’m against that sort of thing now, but I was just curious.

Baby boomers 1945 - 1964

Will you find a man after you’re 35? The world may never know. What will most likely keep you single once you’re in your middle 30s will be your own attitude. By that time, you’ll be set in your ways, not as shy, and you won’t be able to tolerate keeping people that you strongly disagree with in your life. It also means that you’ll stand up for what you believe and you won’t just agree so you can have some man that you find attractive for shallow reasons. If that doesn’t weed out a lot of the men you’re looking at, unrealistic expectations on potential mates is another pitfall of all people over the age of 35.

[funymann]

Originally Posted by darrensmooth

Why someone older than 30 would want to be with someone 19/20 for anything other than sex boggles the mind. If its just sex ok, but that becomes boring after a while, if its for a full relationship, I question your maturity, experience level in adult relationships. Typically you would have next to nothing in common if you are in your 30's dating someone who is 19, different experience levels, different places in life etc.

Sadly some men would like to date a younger, inexperienced girl in order to manipulate them or raise them into a woman they would like.

[CancerianMoonPrincess]

Originally Posted by funymann

Sadly some men would like to date a younger, inexperienced girl in order to manipulate them or raise them into a woman they would like.

Ya which is why I won't date one until I'm at least 25.