Does Porn Watching Lead To Divorce? (Christian, wife, marriage, women)

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by Vicki Larson

Face it -- if there's a man in your life, he's most likely watching porn and if you're a woman, you're most likely not too happy about it.

Another vapid, poorly-researched, checkout-counter-style article on the horrifying dangers of porn...

I left a comment today but it's still in moderation at this moment.


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Vicki Larson: Does Porn Watching Lead to Divorce?
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[mistygrl092]

Well, all I can tell you is it never did my marriage any good and I am divorced. I don't know about it in general, but it is true I don't think most women appreciate it.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by mistygrl092

Well, all I can tell you is it never did my marriage any good and I am divorced. I don't know about it in general, but it is true I don't think most women appreciate it.

That's interesting. What about the benefits of it - doesn't it also often "rev up" the guy for a fun session? Or, for that matter, rev up the girl also?

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

That's interesting. What about the benefits of it - doesn't it also often "rev up" the guy for a fun session? Or, for that matter, rev up the girl also?

If my man has to get "revved up" for a fun session with me, by looking at other women in that way, then I guess we are both in trouble.
And no..watching porn does not rev me up for wanting to have sex with my husband.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by yankeegirl313

If my man has to get "revved up" for a fun session with me, by looking at other women in that way, then I guess we are both in trouble.

I don't think it's so much a matter of "has to" - it's just fun. Shutting out porn would be like taking your Top Fuel dragster to the strip without first tuning it up: you'll still get where you're going but the ride will be a little rough.

And no..watching porn does not rev me up for wanting to have sex with my husband.

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[rhawkins74]

only if one or the other is close minded

[mistygrl092]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

That's interesting. What about the benefits of it - doesn't it also often "rev up" the guy for a fun session? Or, for that matter, rev up the girl also?

All it ever did for me was make me feel like I wasn't enough to get revved up over. If a guy has to watch other people engage as in that, what does that say about the woman he is involved with? And what does that do to her self esteem? It's not a matter of being open or closed minded. It's a matter of having FEELINGS.

[rhawkins74]

Originally Posted by mistygrl092

All it ever did for me was make me feel like I wasn't enough to get revved up over. If a guy has to watch other people engage as in that, what does that say about the woman he is involved with? And what does that do to her self esteem? It's not a matter of being open or closed minded. It's a matter of having FEELINGS.

but it is closed minded, because in your mind, you feel that it is an attack on your self esteem. You are not willing to accept that this may not be the case. Many couples watch porn together, it is something that they do that arouses them, it don't mean that their partners don't arouse them, it just happens to be something that they find stimulating and enjoy doing.

being open minded don't mean you have to like something, it is just accepting that the way you look at or believe things to be isnt necessarily the only way. It is being open to the fact that everything isnt as cut and dry as you want to believe it is.

[mistygrl092]

Originally Posted by rhawkins74

but it is closed minded, because in your mind, you feel that it is an attack on your self esteem. You are not willing to accept that this may not be the case. Many couples watch porn together, it is something that they do that arouses them, it don't mean that their partners don't arouse them, it just happens to be something that they find stimulating and enjoy doing.

being open minded don't mean you have to like something, it is just accepting that the way you look at or believe things to be isnt necessarily the only way. It is being open to the fact that everything isnt as cut and dry as you want to believe it is.

Look, when your husband comes home from work and says it's time to start a family and then proceeds to throw in a porn video, there is no way not to take that personally.

I am one of the most open minded people on the planet (except when it comes to politics and I guess I am far left, which tells you I am not exactly open minded to people who hate gays, love war, fake Christianity, etc), but I do draw the line at certain points.

[TaoistDude]

Sometimes it can be a shortcut to arousal, particularly when you don't have the time for extended foreplay but still want to have sex. It can also be helpful as men get older and testosterone levels decline - it can serve to boost a lessened libido.

So in occasional, moderate amounts, I think it can be a very positive thing. Only when it becomes an addiction or priority over your real partner is it a negative. Usually, watching it has nothing to do with the wife or g/f being inadequate or attractive or arousing - it's just some extra spice or a quick-start to fun.