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I'm just wondering. It's not just on this forum...but in real life...I hear people complaining about their partners/spouses and what they do.
If it's so bad that you have to bring it up in public (often repeatedly), then why don't you fix the problem?! And if it's so unbearable, just freakin' leave.
Help me out...maybe I'm naive...why is this so hard? It can't be as easy as just putting your foot down, right? Or is it? Or do I just have a talent for dating really reasonable, considerate people who find my happiness as important as theirs (and vice versa)?
Why stay with someone who makes you so miserable that you have to whine in public about it incessantly?
Im not sure I whine incessantly, but its been my experience that most of these things that “drive you crazy” don’t manifest until you have sufficiently involved yourself in a relationship. Then you try to resolve the problem which often proves to be a difficult task. At this point you have a lot invested in your relationship and have to decide if the problem is bad enough to just toss everything or if the good outweighs the bad. I think mostly the complaining is just venting that everyone is entitled to every now and then.
Yeah, I'm not about to leave my husband and best friend of 17 years over his loud coughing fits in the morning that drive me crazy....
Or when he does work around the house in his "good" jeans because he forgot to change.. at least he's doing house work!
Dude, why can't we vent or tell otheres about it from time to time. NO ONE is perfect!!!!
I could vent on what I do that drives myself and my husband CRAZY!!!
I'm just wondering. It's not just on this forum...but in real life...I hear people complaining about their partners/spouses and what they do.
If it's so bad that you have to bring it up in public (often repeatedly), then why don't you fix the problem?! And if it's so unbearable, just freakin' leave.
Help me out...maybe I'm naive...why is this so hard? It can't be as easy as just putting your foot down, right? Or is it? Or do I just have a talent for dating really reasonable, considerate people who find my happiness as important as theirs (and vice versa)?
Why stay with someone who makes you so miserable that you have to whine in public about it incessantly?
It's not a matter of being hard. Some people actually enjoy complaining. As with anything in life, you'll have those who get things done and those who just sit and complain, never working to resolve their issues. Just surround yourself with like-minded people.
I may not have a partner now, but one thing that would drive me up a wall is if he has a bossy attitude!! Omg!! There's a difference between being a leader and just being bossy and controlling. I haven't experienced this in a partner, but I know some people who are just control freaks and I can't stand it!!!
Hah, not sure I do much complaining about my partner, online or in public, as it were...but there are always going to be annoyances of the "irritating, but nothing to have a throwdown over" variety.
Chief among them are his pickiness in terms of food. It's not gonna change (although he DID taste asparagus the other day! That's all I can ask...like with a 4-year old...if you've never had it, just TRY it!). There's really nothing I can "DO about it," except occasionally vent my annoyance.
Likewise with my other main gripe...appearing to be listening when I tell him important things, only later to appear clueless and claim that I "never told him," when I did, he just wasn't listening/absorbing. I now put anything important in writing, just like I do at work. So there's something that can done about that.
I don't appreciate friends who drag you into their relationship turmoil, get you all rilled up as you coach them through their ordeal only to have them forgive the individual and reconnect sometimes within a matter of hours!
There I am left upset regarding the said infraction as they skip off into the sunset drinking caramel macchiatos and such. This is why I simply share MY OWN personal experiences/how I handled etc. vs what they should do.
I don't appreciate friends who drag you into their relationship turmoil, get you all rilled up as you coach them through their ordeal only to have them forgive the individual and reconnect sometimes within a matter of hours!
There I am left upset regarding the said infraction as they skip off into the sunset drinking caramel macchiatos and such. This is why I simply share MY OWN personal experiences/how I handled etc. vs what they should do.
The flip side of that is people who claim to want to "help" when they really just get off on others crises. This is why the workplace is a place I never talk about anything private.
personally I like a relatively drama free life, so sick of hearing all the addiction, negative stories (on tv etc).
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This is why the workplace is a place I never talk about anything private.
