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I won't make any excuses for myself but lately my husbands and our life in the bedroom hasn't been to great.. he has been under a lot of stress that is unnecessary with his family and has been taking away from our time together.. Here lately I have discovered a bad habit or at least i consider it to be with watching Porn.. Should I confess to my husband that I have been watching this ? Every time i try to tell him i need more intimate moments he brushes it off HELP
Absolutely not. Your confession can only lessen your own guilt, not be of help your husband. In fact, it sounds like a hidden agenda of punishing him for him not being more attentive to you.
If you think your porn watching is wrong, stop it and make amends to your husband by being more understanding of his problems. If you don't think it is wrong, continue it as your own personal business without troubling him with it.
Absolutely not. Your confession can only lessen your own guilt, not be of help your husband. In fact, it sounds like a hidden agenda of punishing him for him not being more attentive to you.
If you think your porn watching is wrong, stop it and make amends to your husband by being more understanding of his problems. If you don't think it is wrong, continue it as your own personal business without troubling him with it.
Where do all these self centered women come from?
This is the husband who throws things at her and verbally abuses her. I hardly think she's the self centred one.
No need to feel guilty about your porn watching. It's not cheating and you certainly aren't getting any fulfillment from him. Be a better friend to yourself and don't worry so much about what others are going to think of you, especially people who are neglecting you when it's convenient for them.
If a confession is necessary for your personal happiness and detrimental to someone else's -- suffer in silence. If the truth is necessary to allow someone to move past a difficult point in their life, tell it no matter how much it hurts you.
Never do anything you would hesitate to tell your loved one you did.
I may be an insensitive bully, but a woman who does something she is obviously ashamed of doing, and then wanting support to confess it to her husband without saying unconditionally that she will never do it again is just wanting to hurt him. Call it hidden agenda or passive agressive behavior, either way, it gives me tons of insight into her marital problems.
We have only heard one side of this woman's story. I think I am getting an idea of what the other side would sound like.
I may be an insensitive bully, but a woman who does something she is obviously ashamed of doing, and then wanting support to confess it to her husband without saying unconditionally that she will never do it again is just wanting to hurt him. Call it hidden agenda or passive agressive behavior, either way, it gives me tons of insight into her marital problems.
We have only heard one side of this woman's story. I think I am getting an idea of what the other side would sound like.
I just wanted to know should I talk to my husband about this.. Yes I obviously came here for support, for advice as well as friendships out of my busy stressful life I just really hate that I have to run into people like you on here as well.. I do not want to hurt my husband, he has actually been the one to hurt me quiet a bit in the past.. I have never cheated on him .. never lied to him and he has done all those things.. and now i feel guilty for watching porn. Why should I have to explain anything further other than.. ask a question to other married couples or others who would have good insight or opinions. Please keep your negativity to yourself.. I don't need it
and I have never tried to act all high, holy and mighty.. yes I have made attempts in the past few weeks to go to church but am to lacking in that area at this point in my life right now but that should be none of your concern.. I don't think any of us are perfect and with your negative words and attitude clearly neither are you.
OP, why do you feel guilty? Has he told you not watch porn? Why do you even feel the need to tell him this? Some truths need not be told. If you're feeling horrible, stop watch the porn. The real issue maybe that you want to use your watching porn as a intro to talk to your husband about the intimacy issues you've said you two are experiencing. By all means, have a talk about the intimacy issues but the porn is just a sidebar.
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