I really need to quit spending so much on dates (vs, problems)

[Garfunkle524]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

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Originally Posted by ChessieMom

This is a GREAT idea! Good job Julia. I'd actually be very impressed with a guy that suggested this as a date.

Thanks Julia! I'm totally going to use this

(I tried to rep you but I've been giving you way too much attention apparently )

[VTHokieFan]

Originally Posted by STT Resident

You shouldn't be complimented for being truthful with a statement like this but it certainly demonstrates the complete difference between someone like you and someone like TVSG. Rarely getting beyond a first date, not only has he never had anything nice to say about any of the women who've managed to tolerate him for a few hours but goes out of his way to criticize them. Wrong clothes, wrong shoes, bad hair, too much make-up, whiny voice, too heavy - the list is endless and never a nice attribute is mentioned.

Good luck to you and, as others have said, keep it simple and continue to have fun!

Yeh. It's not her fault I spent too much. What she basically asked for amounted to like $20 or so, but then the conversation was good so it was dinner, and then after dinner drinks and it was at my own offering. I only blame myself. But you learn from these experiences.

It's like the job interviews, I had over 40 last year, and I kept getting better and better and more conversational and adapting, I was also rejected 38 times receiving only 2 offers, but I learned so much and became much better at it.

[papafox]

Originally Posted by Skydive Outlaw

Not to diminish the depth of your investment in the dates that you have been on maestro, but to a woman that is even only moderately attractive - the amounts that you are spending are considered just a basic down payment for the opportunity to hang out with her while she is eating (food that you paid for) and enjoy her company until she decides she has had enough and wants to go home.

I have always believed that a guy has no business dating any woman above the level of a Scottsdale 7 (which would be a Seattle 8 or San Diego 6) if he makes less than $100k a year and is not able to cater to her every need and desire as well as maintain a competitive edge over any and all other guys that are pursuing her.

My point is this, and relating to the huge cash investment you have made in the most recent dates that you have been on. What the hell are you doing even dating, if that kind of expenditure ranging from $50-150 is causing such a problem when, if we pursue your goals to the next level of logical evolution - the same woman that you are taking out to dinner (and according to you, a very expensive dinner) could as a result of having sex with you alter your life to the point where you either have a kid with her or get married. And that is where the fun begins. Once your dream girl has a kid or wants to marry you, the last thing you will be worried about are the expensive $100 dinners you use to take her out for.

You will have a host of other more pressing and way more expensive problems like raising a kid, so there is daycare, diapers, etc, saving for the little bastards' college and if you marry the chick then you better gear up for a nice fat mortgage payment every month, getting her a new car and all the other related expenses with maintaining a vagina, I mean a spouse.

So use this as a learning experience in dating finance. If the dinners are setting you back so much - then just give up on dating for now until you make enough to be able to take a hungry biyotch to dinner and then cover a long and very expensive future with her and or a kid. You would probably at this point, get more personnal satisfaction and karma for your soul by just dropping $100 worth of canned goods off at the local homeless shelter than feeding some hungry c u next tuesday that doesn't want to deal with you anyway after a couple of dates.

OMG!! You're kidding right? You sound shallower than a dried up river bed in the Sahara!!

I avoid women like you like the plague no matter how "hot"you might be. Good riddance.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by papafox

I avoid women like you like the plague no matter how "hot"you might be. Good riddance.

Skydive Outlaw is probably relieved, being a man and all.

[Opsimathia]

Originally Posted by papafox

OMG!! You're kidding right? You sound shallower than a dried up river bed in the Sahara!!

I avoid women like you like the plague no matter how "hot"you might be. Good riddance.

Oh please....we all know by that response, they avoid you or dont stick around. Get over it and date the girl next door.

And bringing up the cost of kids is anything but shallow. Its logical to those who want to plot out a smoother future.

[laorbust61]

Originally Posted by VTHokieFan

$110 the first time around and then like $50 or so on the second date. Both dates had happy endings, and then rejected for the 3rd date. I'm so mad at myself for always doing this. It's my fault though.

I don't think it was the amount of money you spent that was the issue. That said, you're right. You're spending too much money on dates, since you're just getting to know the lady. Try taking your date out for brunch, breakfast or lunch instead of dinner and drinks. That could save you $30 to $40 right there.

If you want save money and impress her, why not take her out to one of the nicer parks in your area for mini-cookout (prepare the steak for her right there on the grill) or if she doesn't eat meat, a simple elegant picnic, complete with a good wine, bread, cheese, maybe a fruit tray? You can buy everything you need at a place like Target for the cost of one expensive dinner.

[highlife2]

Originally Posted by VTHokieFan

I guess the ellipses looked that way. We actually just made out, but still you'd think that's an invitation for round 3...oh well.

Dang 160$ to make out thats a little steep. thats actually alot steep.

[WestPhillyDude75]

Originally Posted by highlife2

Dang 160$ to make out thats a little steep. thats actually alot steep.

Well some girls are $160 material

[kinkytoes]

LOL I guess that's true, but I think the point is the OP can't afford to keep spending a lot of money. I like the idea of "daytime" dates. Dinner does tend to be more expensive.

[onihC]

If you feel you are spending too much try going out with girls who are totally cool about contributing to the expenses right from the start. Very hard to find where you are but I guess it would work out well with you.