Do Attractive Men Ever Find Themselves "Trapped" in Relationships? (wives, girlfriends)

[MontanaGuy]

People who are very attractive are clearly treated differently (that would mean better) than average or unattractive individuals and as a result it tends to make them more confident with high self esteem. I think the situation that the OP is describing would not be very typical.

[WhyShouldIWorry]

Originally Posted by BajanYankee

Have you ever met an attractive (tall, charming, successful, good-looking) guy who lots of attractive women have expressed interest in that was "trapped" in a relationship (without having a kid) for any of the following reasons:

(a) low self-esteem
(b) he had nowhere else to go
(c) he thought he couldn't do any better

I have heard that many attractive women, despite having several options to choose from, stay with guys because they have low self-esteem, have nowhere else to go, or because they think they can't do any better. Sometimes they stay in a relationship with a guy who is clearly inferior to her other suitors by all observable metrics (height, looks, money, and attitude). So I started wondering: "Do attractive men get trapped into relationships because of low self-esteem?" Have you ever seen a hot guy with a girl you thought "wasn't on his level" and who was treating him poorly and thought to yourself, "He's only with her because he has low self-esteem and doesn't think he can do any better?" Just curious.

Most attractive men aren't nice enough to feel an obligation to any woman.

Not only is it not a matter of "he thought he couldn't do any better" but in fact, he thought he could do much better. In the mean time, he's got at least a few women around to satisfy his immediate needs. If any get "uppity", things can get nasty very quickly.

Women seldom see this happen but other guys do.

[BajanYankee]

Originally Posted by WhyShouldIWorry

Most attractive men aren't nice enough to feel an obligation to any woman.

Not only is it not a matter of "he thought he couldn't do any better" but in fact, he thought he could do much better. In the mean time, he's got at least a few women around to satisfy his immediate needs. If any get "uppity", things can get nasty very quickly.

Women seldom see this happen but other guys do.

An attractive woman can move on to another man just like an attractive man can move on to another woman. So why is that we really only hear about attractive women being "trapped?"

[meh_whatever]

Originally Posted by BajanYankee

An attractive woman can move on to another man just like an attractive man can move on to another woman. So why is that we really only hear about attractive women being "trapped?"

Because women are more likely to think they can "fix" a faulty mate.

Men don't generally want to bother. Particularly very attractive men.

[CancerianMoonPrincess]

Originally Posted by BajanYankee

An attractive woman can move on to another man just like an attractive man can move on to another woman. So why is that we really only hear about attractive women being "trapped?"

I believe men can be trapped (see my other thread about trapping into marriage through pregnancy). However I think they do it to themekves sometimes. Even if the girl is not really attractive, she could probably be giving some good sex. That's what many people say happens sometimes. And because they're getting some, they won't leave. That seems to be the case in Bridezillas.

Other than that, I don't know why any guy would "trap" himself in a relationship with a b*tchy girl.

[BajanYankee]

Originally Posted by meh_whatever

Because women are more likely to think they can "fix" a faulty mate.

Fix what exactly? She can't fix him by just being his friend? And do you think she actually wants to sleep with such a man or does she sleep with him only because she feels bad for him?

In other words, she may really not be attracted to the guy, but she slept with him anyway because he preyed on her emotions and made her feel bad? And does the same happen to men? Do men sleep with women because those women have manipulated them and dragged down their self esteem?

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by BajanYankee

An attractive woman can move on to another man just like an attractive man can move on to another woman. So why is that we really only hear about attractive women being "trapped?"

This question has already been answered. It's because she doesn't think she can do better. Whether that's actually true or not is beside the point. What matters is whether SHE believes it. You don't see this sort of thinking with men, at least not very often.

[crisan]

What is the equivalent you asked?

A co-worker put up a poster of a beautiful exotic girl in his office. I worked in a male dominated field. The poster said something along these lines: Yes, she is beautiful but somebody still has to put up with her sh*t.

Not all attractive women are like this, of course.

[BajanYankee]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

This question has already been answered. It's because she doesn't think she can do better. Whether that's actually true or not is beside the point. What matters is whether SHE believes it. You don't see this sort of thinking with men, at least not very often.

Why not? I suppose men don't have self-esteem issues.

[BajanYankee]

Originally Posted by crisan

What is the equivalent you asked?

A co-worker put up a poster of a beautiful exotic girl in his office. I worked in a male dominated field. The poster said something along these lines: Yes, she is beautiful but somebody still has to put up with her sh*t.

Not all attractive women are like this, of course.

That's a little different, I think. If you were taking crap from Megan Fox, most guys would say, "Well, she is a hottie." It would be the same if a girl was taking crap from Brad Pitt. People would say, "It's a shame that he treats her that way, but I can see why she stays with him. He's freakin' Brad Pitt!"

I'm talking about the attractive woman whose boyfriend is a loser in the eyes of her friends and family. She's a grad student and he has a drinking problem that prevents him from maintaining steady employment at the tire repair shop. For the most part, everyone around her says, "Why is she with this dude?" Denny says it's because she thinks she can't do any better. Why aren't there more men who find themselves in a similar situation?