Unexplainable (cheaters, emotionally, feeling, relation)

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by optiflex

I love people who haven't experienced something, acting like they're an expert. All these lil Oprah wanabees

And of course you can also tell her rage is gender biased too.

1. Learn how to use quote codes. I didn't say anything in the boldface. Hell, I can't even understand half of what you wrote. You knew a woman didn't love you and yet you married her? Then you got ticked when she left you 18 years later...because she didn't love you?

2. In the OP's case, it's a woman who was treated poorly, so the bulk of my comments were framed on her behalf. If it were a man on the receiving end, I'd be saying the same thing. In fact, I said "his or her judgment" and "partner" in several instances.

3. Talk about baggage. You just revealed yours if you think my comments are coming from a place of gender bias. Worked you over, did she? I guess you serve as an example of what happens when people get dumped without grace then, bitter as you appear to be.

All these lil He-Man Woman-Hater wanna-bes.

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by Anberlin

While I agree with a lot of your posts, I'm just so "anti-follow your heart" kind of gal. LOL. What if another girl comes along and he feels the same way as he did with this girl. Should he follow his heart and broke up with her as well?

I am happy for him, but the whole "follow your heart" just throws me off. It seems for him that his heart sure wants her and that's good. You never know if your heart wants this or that or is even sure. I think that it's important to be content as well, but maybe I'm just more of a mind over heart person.

Same here.

My heart knows what the heart wants, my brain will let it know if it can have it.

I don't believe hormone rushes should dictate actions. If your unhappy in a relationship, even to the point of realizing that others are now having more appeal to you then leave.

But I don't believe in dumping one person for another. And yes, there ARE exceptions to all rules, but not as many as people think.

And no, I've never been dumped for another woman. /lol

[D217]

I think this thread took off on a tangent somewhere...

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

Same here.

My heart knows what the heart wants, my brain will let it know if it can have it.

I don't believe hormone rushes should dictate actions. If your unhappy in a relationship, even to the point of realizing that others are now having more appeal to you then leave.

But I don't believe in dumping one person for another. And yes, there ARE exceptions to all rules, but not as many as people think.

And no, I've never been dumped for another woman. /lol

Re dumping one person for another: I hope the new woman can see that objectively. There are people, male and female, for whom this kind of thing is a pattern. They don't leave one person until they have another lined up.

And not for nothing, but if the OP was my son, brother, or friend, I might be wondering what in creation he's thinking. I've told friends of my own, "Chica, the bed isn't even cold from the last one yet!"

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by D217

I think this thread took off on a tangent somewhere...

YIKES, you're right.

Bet the OP will never show back up now

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Yzette

Re dumping one person for another: I hope the new woman can see that objectively. There are people, male and female, for whom this kind of thing is a pattern. They don't leave one person until they have another lined up.

And not for nothing, but if the OP was my son, brother, or friend, I might be wondering what in creation he's thinking. I've told friends of my own, "Chica, the bed isn't even cold from the last one yet!"

SOME people may do this, certainly not all, and probably not even close to a majority. It would be unfair to just assume our OP is one such person.

I can't quite figure how why you are being such a dog with a bone on this one my friend

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Anberlin

While I agree with a lot of your posts, I'm just so "anti-follow your heart" kind of gal. LOL. What if another girl comes along and he feels the same way as he did with this girl. Should he follow his heart and broke up with her as well?

I am happy for him, but the whole "follow your heart" just throws me off. It seems for him that his heart sure wants her and that's good. You never know if your heart wants this or that or is even sure. I think that it's important to be content as well, but maybe I'm just more of a mind over heart person.

I know that unless you've had this kind of experience it can be very hard to believe in or understand.

But truly, there are some things in life you can just know for certain IF you have good instincts and know how to trust your guts

[mistygrl092]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

No, what this kid did was live his life the best way he knew how

And we don't know that he told the exgirlfriend the extent of his attraction to the new girl and how long it had been going on for.

We only know that as soon as he realized he HAD to be with the new girl he broke up with the old girlfriend.

I'm betting he was smart enough to realize there was nothing to be gained by saying anything other than, "I've become attracted to someone else and feel I must pursue my feelings so I owe it to you to break things off with you now" - or something similar said in more cool 20-something-speak

The fact remains he cheated on an emotional level and wasted TWO years of his GF's life. This is not a feel good thread IMO rather a cheater's thread in which he is trying to rationalize his poor behavior as something to be lauded and applauded.

[mistygrl092]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

YIKES, you're right.

Bet the OP will never show back up now

Most likely because he was told the truth by several and it did not turn out to be the thread he anticipated. Too bad, too sad.

As someone who took four years of my life in his deceptive ways, I have no good words to say about this.

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