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My background is that I'm a 25 yo fairly inexperienced male (not entirely, but basically I've never had a gf that I initiated contact with), so please bare with me here:
Lately, I've been branching out socially, talking with certain girls along the way, but nothing so far has panned out for me. I've gotten a few numbers, but I believe it was because I wasn't direct enough with them and essentially just asked to do things friends would do given the environment/interests I met them in, though one girl did tell me she had a boyfriend. So, I'm not sure how to make my romantic intentions clear without being overbearing...otherwise I'm left doubting myself. Do I have to use the word 'date' or something to drive the point? I'm not a touchy-feely, compliment-giving guy, so maybe I'm hard to read?
Anyway, I feel I've now exhausted my social network and need to try new grounds to meet different girls. Thing is, I prefer more reserved girls, but don't know where to meet them. I don't go out much and not sure if bars and clubs would be appropriate for me.
There really is no particular place where women congregate in the hopes of being flirted with. Everyone has their own interests and activities so it just seems like getting involved in your own interests in a setting where you'll likely meet new people would be the way to start. There's all sorts of singles clubs (I'm not referring to bars) that have get togethers. I've done a lot of that sort of thing which included hiking groups for singles, bicycling, and a few others and I did end up meeting new people so I would recommend it.
I agree with MontanaGuy that there are no specific places where women want to be flirted with. But you can make yourself attractive to women who want to flirt with you.
Learn to dance my friend. Learn from the best and be the best. I promise they will come to you. Dancing has turned me from a social misfit to a social butterfly and I don't even need the nuts to ask. They come ask me now. Like we say....where else can you hold a pretty lady so close all night and not owe her anything and everyone parts ways with a huge smile. I have met so very many beautiful ladies on the dance floor.
I'm not talking some drunkin stupid bar with an 8x8 piece of wood that gets 3 couples doing an in place just invented movement they call dancing. I'm talking real large dance halls. The ladies always outnumber the guys. You are at an advantage. How can you turn that opportunity down? Good luck to you my friend !!
Don't listen to other people's great advice..... I hear that there is a city outside of Minnesota where all the chick dig when guys flirt with them....
I forget the name.. I'll look it up and get back to ya....
I agree with MontanaGuy that there are no specific places where women want to be flirted with. But you can make yourself attractive to women who want to flirt with you.
Learn to dance my friend. Learn from the best and be the best. I promise they will come to you. Dancing has turned me from a social misfit to a social butterfly and I don't even need the nuts to ask. They come ask me now. Like we say....where else can you hold a pretty lady so close all night and not owe her anything and everyone parts ways with a huge smile. I have met so very many beautiful ladies on the dance floor.
I'm not talking some drunkin stupid bar with an 8x8 piece of wood that gets 3 couples doing an in place just invented movement they call dancing. I'm talking real large dance halls. The ladies always outnumber the guys. You are at an advantage. How can you turn that opportunity down? Good luck to you my friend !!
Could you provide me with a little more information about the dance halls? Are you referring to dance clubs or lessons? I've been a gymnast in the past so I'm sure I could pick this up and it does sound fun.
My background is that I'm a 25 yo fairly inexperienced male (not entirely, but basically I've never had a gf that I initiated contact with), so please bare with me here:
Lately, I've been branching out socially, talking with certain girls along the way, but nothing so far has panned out for me. I've gotten a few numbers, but I believe it was because I wasn't direct enough with them and essentially just asked to do things friends would do given the environment/interests I met them in, though one girl did tell me she had a boyfriend. So, I'm not sure how to make my romantic intentions clear without being overbearing...otherwise I'm left doubting myself. Do I have to use the word 'date' or something to drive the point? I'm not a touchy-feely, compliment-giving guy, so maybe I'm hard to read?
Anyway, I feel I've now exhausted my social network and need to try new grounds to meet different girls. Thing is, I prefer more reserved girls, but don't know where to meet them. I don't go out much and not sure if bars and clubs would be appropriate for me.
You may just need to work on a sense of humor and your rap. You can probably meet women to flirt with, just about anywhere, if you have a good sense of humor (especially if they don't), and your rap.
I recently practiced what I preach at a Supercuts location that does training, (to get a free haircut), and simply informed the women who were there that I there for a short-term relationship. They may have missed my point, but I still got to practice putting myself "out there". The good news is that I accomplished my goal and none of the women seemed to be upset that I only wanted a short-term relationship with them.
I only wish I had, had the presence of mind to remember to tell them they were "wonderful" afterward.
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I'll look it up and get back to ya....
