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Old 04-11-2012, 06:24 PM
 
Location: Homeless
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Every once in a while we get some thread biased towards the opposite sex. We all get an ear full about how men OR women have done THEM wrong & then of course they ALL are judged as one. All men cheat & are liars And all women are money grubbing gold diggers & go from guy to guy sleeping with him & taking his money. I know I've went though my rough times where I blamed women in general for being cheaters myself. Now to my question what does it take for said person to look in the mirror & see that it's not everyone else but themselves? How many does it take for someone to see that their failed relationships have been their fault? Better yet how do they get past it?
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Old 04-11-2012, 06:31 PM
 
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all you gotta worry about is yourself, man
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Old 04-11-2012, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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You have every reason in the world to be hopeful. People hate to be wrong so they look for any way possible to blame the other party. It takes an intelligent, introspective person to realize THEY are the common factor if they have a series of failed relationships. Much easier to make generalizations demeaning to the opposite sex.

Keep on looking in that mirror and you will figure out what you need to change about the type of women you find attractive. Change you! That's all you can change.
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Old 04-11-2012, 06:43 PM
 
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This isn't about me but people in general.
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Old 04-11-2012, 08:21 PM
 
Location: USA
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This isn't about me but people in general.
I understand what you're asking and I have looked in the mirror. But it's not something I feel comfortable sharing on a public forum.
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Old 04-11-2012, 08:49 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Every once in a while we get some thread biased towards the opposite sex. We all get an ear full about how men OR women have done THEM wrong & then of course they ALL are judged as one. All men cheat & are liars And all women are money grubbing gold diggers & go from guy to guy sleeping with him & taking his money. I know I've went though my rough times where I blamed women in general for being cheaters myself. Now to my question what does it take for said person to look in the mirror & see that it's not everyone else but themselves? How many does it take for someone to see that their failed relationships have been their fault? Better yet how do they get past it?
Some people area incapable of it, whether by choice or ignorance. As yellowsnow said, "It takes an intelligent, introspective person to realize THEY are the common factor if they have a series of failed relationships".

It's easier to villainize everyone else instead of looking at your contributions to the failures in your lifem and the easiest thing is almost never the RIGHT thing to do.
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Old 04-11-2012, 08:59 PM
 
Location: Pa
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"I'm talking about the man in the mirror(yeah yeah) I'm asking him to change his waaaays,...-If ya wanna make the world a better place, you'd better take a look and make that change"
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Old 04-11-2012, 09:06 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I think the people that need to do it don't know that they need to do it...
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Old 04-11-2012, 11:00 PM
 
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I think the people that need to do it don't know that they need to do it...

I asked because you see people come on here & ask why didn my SO leave? Come to find out said person has had 8 relationships & none of them have worked out. OR they have become so bitter they can't see it for themselves.
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Old 04-11-2012, 11:02 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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meh, looking in the mirror. What terrible advice. Everytime I looked in the mirror they broke so I gave up.
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