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then to have never loved at all? (im talking about marriage)
Do you think its better to have married someone you loved and ended up divorcing, or to never marry someone?
Obviously this is a personal question so there is no right answer, Id just like to hear what you guys think. I sincerely want to believe in marriage but it really frightens me when i think about how south things can go...
If I get married in the future, I will view my wedding vows as sacred and inviolable. The only legitimate justifications for a divorce, IMO, are either adultery or physical/etc. abuse. Whatever other conflicts that a wife and husband have, I have very high hopes they can be worked out or made better.
"For better of worse, till death do us part" -- I want these wedding vows words, to mean something real, if / when I get married Marriage IMO is a sacred and beautiful thing.
then to have never loved at all? (im talking about marriage)
Do you think its better to have married someone you loved and ended up divorcing, or to never marry someone?
Obviously this is a personal question so there is no right answer, Id just like to hear what you guys think. I sincerely want to believe in marriage but it really frightens me when i think about how south things can go...
Things can go bad whether you are married or not; there are no guarantees. However, the more time a couple devotes to getting to know each other; ensuring they have similar interests, beliefs, values, respects each other; are tolerant; honest and sincere.....and most of all, that they like and respect themselves as well - the better their odds are for a healthy relationship.
Anyone who is looking for a successful marriage will avoid anyone who is addicted to drugs/alcohol, and/or is abusive.
We can't look to someone else to 'make' us happy; that comes from within; however, being with the right person enhances our life.
I prefer to go it solo than be with the wrong person; and being lonely with someone is the worse kind of lonely.
then to have never loved at all? (im talking about marriage)
Do you think its better to have married someone you loved and ended up divorcing, or to never marry someone?
Obviously this is a personal question so there is no right answer, Id just like to hear what you guys think. I sincerely want to believe in marriage but it really frightens me when i think about how south things can go...
As you said, this is a personal question. Everybody is different, so there is no single answer that will fit unmarried people, people who have been married a short while, people with children, people in the middle of a bitter divorce, etc.
For me, if we ever divorced (God forbid), I would have been glad of the experience. I have grown a lot as a person as the result of my marriage, and I have three children as a result. If we had never married, my life would have been different--probably very different. I wouldn't want to miss out on my experiences or my children.
then to have never loved at all? (im talking about marriage)
Do you think its better to have married someone you loved and ended up divorcing, or to never marry someone?
Obviously this is a personal question so there is no right answer, Id just like to hear what you guys think. I sincerely want to believe in marriage but it really frightens me when i think about how south things can go...
I can't help thinking that if you marry someone you love you won't end up divorcing....Marriage is really just a legal name for commitment....it's a tradition, and can't really strengthen a bond that's not already there....Sure, some "go south"....but others just get higher, and higher.....It takes many years of respect, compromise , curtesy and trust to reach that high, but it's definately worth the pursuit.
I can love someone without being married, but I'm going to make damn sure we can make it all the way before I give her a ring. Divorces are a mess at best, and will literally ruin your life at the worst. I've seen others' divorces and been a child to a nasty divorce and it sickens me beyond belief. I will not let my life go down that path (then again, I'm not the type to cheat while apparently most of America is). For me it's not just about being in love, but being in love WITH THE RIGHT PERSON. I won't settle for anything less. In doing so, I realize that I also need to be someone else's "right person". Commitment is a two-way street and it would be wrong not to hold myself to my own standards.
I'm young with only a small amount of relationship experience, but I know what I want and I believe myself to be mature enough to find it. Love isn't the only reason I will propose someday because in my mind there has got to be so much more.
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Marriage IMO is a sacred and beautiful thing.
