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Old 06-29-2011, 09:53 AM
 
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no doubt a lot of marriages end in divorce but even so, its worth the risk IMO.





If your 85 and never been married and have no kids, chances are your gonna die lonely.. all of your other family will be gone and most of your social buddies as well. You might find some friends at the old folks home to keep you company but you will have no one to come visit you and brag about the grand kids and great grand kids.

In the end, the only people you can depend on is family. You might think you don't need a family, but you do and you will. You might say that your closest friends are family and no doubt some are but unless they are 85 and still single as well, they wont have as much time for you as they did when you were 35.

At the end of everyone's life, there are regrets but I can't think of a more remorseful feeling than reaching the end of my life and not being able to look back at the lives that I helped create. You could cure cancer and end world hunger and it still would NOT compare to the feeling you would get if your OWN child or grandchild cured cancer or ended world hunger!

It is exceptionally niave to think that you can easily live a wonderful and fullfilling life without ever having a wife and kids. You might be able to, but chances are you can't.
This post is about 47 kinds of "ridiculous", at a minimum..
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Old 06-29-2011, 10:17 AM
 
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This is my conclusion, I am 34, single, no kids, never been married, probably never will, I don't even understand why people in the USA are so obsessed with this very antiquated concept.

Some of the brightest people I know around my age are not married either and truly enjoying life, I have a friend who is extremely smart and educated and she has no desire to get married or have kids.

I am far from being wealthy but just because I am not married or have kids, I have enough money to do most of the things I love like traveling.

I don't even understand why most people get married anyways, it seems like most people do it because they have been pressured to do it by someone else or because society "expects" them do it, I could care less about what people or society "expect" from me.

Anyways, I would love to know some of the "rational" reasons why people get married.
Being single with no experience in marriage or having had realtionship you so value ;your attitude is not surprising really.I once thought when I was single I would never want to marry;then I meet my wife. If your happy then you have no need to justify your position or question it as you are doing hereGood luck
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Old 06-29-2011, 11:03 AM
 
Location: colorado
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This is my conclusion, I am 34, single, no kids, never been married, probably never will, I don't even understand why people in the USA are so obsessed with this very antiquated concept.

Some of the brightest people I know around my age are not married either and truly enjoying life, I have a friend who is extremely smart and educated and she has no desire to get married or have kids.

I am far from being wealthy but just because I am not married or have kids, I have enough money to do most of the things I love like traveling.

I don't even understand why most people get married anyways, it seems like most people do it because they have been pressured to do it by someone else or because society "expects" them do it, I could care less about what people or society "expect" from me.

Anyways, I would love to know some of the "rational" reasons why people get married.

Because its just not about us...some of us..want to share our life with someone...it doesnt make us weak..society don't expect us to be married..its our hearts when we know when we want to spend our lives with that someone special.
Marriage can be a good thing..we we truly marry the love of our lives..
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Old 06-29-2011, 11:04 AM
 
Location: colorado
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Being single with no experience in marriage or having had realtionship you so value ;your attitude is not surprising really.I once thought when I was single I would never want to marry;then I meet my wife. If your happy then you have no need to justify your position or question it as you are doing hereGood luck

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Old 06-29-2011, 06:36 PM
 
Location: Denver Metro
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I wasn't on a mission to get married or anything, but when I met the right person it felt like the most natural thing in the world. To each their own though. I am not some active proponent of marriage or anything.
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Old 06-29-2011, 06:43 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Being a teacher sucks!

Being a professional baseball player sucks!

Having a threesome sucks!

Driving a Mercedes sucks!

Forming opinions on things you never experienced really sucks!
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Old 06-29-2011, 06:53 PM
 
Location: Denver Metro
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Being a teacher sucks!

Being a professional baseball player sucks!

Having a threesome sucks!

Driving a Mercedes sucks!

Forming opinions on things you never experienced really sucks!
Hahaha! You are awesome
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Old 06-29-2011, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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Well, lets just say I wish MOST people felt this way. But I'm telling you, if you're a single handsome male, and you have some status, the probing into your personal life and why you're single never ends.

It's not only tiring, but it's insults my intelligence because people assume my life is not complete unless I'm married, or somehow I don't even have a life because I'm not married; they could not be further from the truth.
Pull on your big boy panties and calmly tell people it is your choice not to get married, end of discussion.
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Old 06-29-2011, 11:21 PM
 
Location: Armsanta Sorad
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Being married doesn't have to be that bad. The only thing I'd worry about if I was married is a meddling MIL.
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Old 06-30-2011, 08:19 AM
 
Location: TX
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I have to admit to skimming the replies past the OP but so far I have yet to see anyone really nail this issue of male marriage disenchantment.

Frankly, the men coy about marriage are not selfish, but wise. There is nothing fundamentally wrong with marriage, but the past 20 years has resulted in a paradigm shift never before seen in human history. For the first time literally ever, the incentives for men to get married have dwindled to little more than an altruistic fantasy.

Look at the statistics and modern TV shows. Look at the laws. Add some personal stories from friends and acquaintances. The result is a snowballing expectation of marriage as a sexless, monotonous grind, where the man surrenders his control, possessions and virility for the women he loves, but whom is now armed with the ultimate power to ruin him. He can also expect complacency, scrutiny, sexual rejection and an extra inch to the waistline every month.

The bonus round? Getting out can predictably leave him near-bankrupt, homeless, emotionally devastated and void of priceless youth.

The bottom line is that marriage is, very simply put, a poor decision for men now. It places them in an exceptionally vulnerable position; the rewards marginal and risks considerable. And for detractors thinking it's all about money & business, I challenge you to find a divorce that didn't leave emotional baggage in its wake.

This is not to say men are afraid of long-term committed relationships, but they're now realizing this can be done without marriage. The world works on incentives, and men are waking up to this grievous imbalance.
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