Being married sucks! (dating, wife, movies, woman)

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by purehuman

Repubocrat...I stayed single too....and loved it!....then I got married...and love it more...To each his own...if being single agrees with you ,great...but it sounds kinda foolish when you say marriage sucks, and you've never been married.

True...I loved my single years, and I love not being single. Same kinda deal.

[Yzette]

I'm divorced and I call shenanigans on this thread. When people are that strident about things they've never experienced, it nearly always means they are coming from a place of sour grapes. In the OP's case, nearly every thread he makes in the Relationships forum is to complain about, denigrate, put down, castigate, or belittle women and relationships.

Why? Because he has no success with them.

As I said in the thread that has since been pulled, just because smart, beautiful, witty, well-educated, desirable women aren't interested in committing to you, that doesn't mean we don't exist.

[Repubocrat]

My main issue with marriage and having kids is the fact that they are mostly irrational choices, I majored in Economics and I am sure I think like an economist but before I make any decisions, I always weigh the pros and cons.

If marriage is failing more than 50% of the time, I just do not see it as a "smart choice", it is like saying, hey, I have an investment opportunity for you, give me 100K and I will try to double your money, however, most of the time, you will lose everything!

I was in a long term relationship (6 years), a near perfect relationship, we ended the relationship amicably mostly because we had different long term goals, she is still one of my best friends and we hardly ever argued.

However, during these 6 years I was able to see all the things that suck about being together for a long time, the lack of passion and excitement, a very slow sex life after 5 years (nothing like it was in the beginning), and at some point, being together was more like a convenience.

I can only imagine how much it would suck to be in marriage where there is constant conflict, alcoholism, kids, cheating, no sex, financial difficulties, I did not experience any of that, and it still sucked

[bijououx]

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

My main issue with marriage and having kids is the fact that they are mostly irrational choices, I majored in Economics and I am sure I think like an economist but before I make any decisions, I always weigh the pros and cons.

If marriage is failing more than 50% of the time, I just do not see it as a "smart choice", it is like saying, hey, I have an investment opportunity for you, give me 100K and I will try to double your money, however, most of the time, you will lose everything!

I was in a long term relationship (6 years), a near perfect relationship, we ended the relationship amicably mostly because we had different long term goals, she is still one of my best friends and we hardly ever argued.

However, during these 6 years I was able to see all the things that suck about being together for a long time, the lack of passion and excitement, a very slow sex life after 5 years (nothing like it was in the beginning), and at some point, being together was more like a convenience.

I can only imagine how much it would suck to be in marriage where there is constant conflict, alcoholism, kids, cheating, financial difficulties, I did not experience any of that, and it still sucked

you seem a very negative man. do not get married then. no one is making you do it

[HurricaneDC]

"Being married sucks
...
I have never been married"

The man speaks from experience, folks!

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by Yzette

I'm divorced and I call shenanigans on this thread. When people are that strident about things they've never experienced, it nearly always means they are coming from a place of sour grapes. In the OP's case, nearly every thread he makes in the Relationships forum is to complain about, denigrate, put down, castigate, or belittle women and relationships.

Why? Because he has no success with them.

As I said in the thread that has since been pulled, just because smart, beautiful, witty, well-educated, desirable women aren't interested in committing to you, that doesn't mean we don't exist.

You got that one, right

[sierraAZ]

That's all fine and dandy; I just don't understand why you feel the need to engage everybody in tirades about your choice.

[Dewdrop93]

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

My main issue with marriage and having kids is the fact that they are mostly irrational choices, I majored in Economics and I am sure I think like an economist but before I make any decisions, I always weigh the pros and cons.

If marriage is failing more than 50% of the time, I just do not see it as a "smart choice", it is like saying, hey, I have an investment opportunity for you, give me 100K and I will try to double your money, however, most of the time, you will lose everything!

I was in a long term relationship (6 years), a near perfect relationship, we ended the relationship amicably mostly because we had different long term goals, she is still one of my best friends and we hardly ever argued.

However, during these 6 years I was able to see all the things that suck about being together for a long time, the lack of passion and excitement, a very slow sex life after 5 years (nothing like it was in the beginning), and at some point, being together was more like a convenience.

I can only imagine how much it would suck to be in marriage where there is constant conflict, alcoholism, kids, cheating, financial difficulties, I did not experience any of that, and it still sucked

So - you had one long-term relationship and now you are convinced that marriage sucks?

Did it ever occur to you that perhaps lack of passion and excitement, lack of a sex life, being together because of convenience means that you actually had a bad relationship instead of a near perfect one? A perfect relationship does not mean you never fight. It does not mean that you are merely comfortable with each other. Every single day - I love my husband more and more. Every single day, we make each other laugh. Every single day, I can't wait to kiss him. Every single day, I'm so grateful that he is in my life. It's not boring. It's not just convenient. We have passion. We have excitement. We fight and we make up. Life is a journey and he makes every single day better.

Honestly, I don't know why I'm bothering to try to explain any of this to you. You don't start a thread titled "Being married sucks!" if you are looking for real answers.

[Repubocrat]

Originally Posted by Yzette

Why? Because he has no success with them.

If I had no success with women, I would be the one trying desperately to get married, like many stupid guys out there. No thanks, I enjoy having female friends and casual relationships for now. It works for me, I can still have my freedom to do whatever I want without the nagging and all the BS that comes with being with someone.

[bijououx]

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

If I had no success with women, I would be the one trying desperately to get married, like many stupid guys out there. No thanks, I enjoy having female friends and casual relationships for now. It works for me, I can still have my freedom to do whatever I want without the nagging and all the BS that comes with being with someone.

Yeap.... You sound like a dream come true. Please do not get married. Do not spare women of such charm (insert sarcasm here)