Being married sucks! (man, older, friend, partner)

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

My main issue with marriage and having kids is the fact that they are mostly irrational choices.

Irrational for who? You? Could be. But you can't really speak for anybody else with any authority, of course.

One needn't be an economist to be cognizant of pros and cons of various choices.

It's unfortunate for you that your long-term relationship went stale, but, needless to say, this isn't everyone's experience. It's yours.

[RedJacket]

Many people know that certain types of mushrooms can be deadly, but what they fail to realize, is the most dangerous food in the world is a wedding cake.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

If marriage is failing more than 50% of the time, I just do not see it as a "smart choice", it is like saying, hey, I have an investment opportunity for you, give me 100K and I will try to double your money, however, most of the time, you will lose everything!

The divorce rate is not and never has been over 50%. It peaked around 40% in the 80s and has been declining ever since. I think it's around 35% now. It's still not great, but it's not the 50% urban legend that's so often repeated.

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

I was in a long term relationship (6 years), a near perfect relationship, we ended the relationship amicably mostly because we had different long term goals, she is still one of my best friends and we hardly ever argued.

Hey, same here! We got along very well, but the relationship fizzled out. We were just going different places. Instead of giving up, though, we eventually married other people.

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

However, during these 6 years I was able to see all the things that suck about being together for a long time, the lack of passion and excitement, a very slow sex life after 5 years (nothing like it was in the beginning), and at some point, being together was more like a convenience.

I'm sorry, but that sounds dreadful, not "nearly perfect" as you said. Life is too short.

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

I can only imagine how much it would suck to be in marriage where there is constant conflict, alcoholism, kids, cheating, no sex, financial difficulties, I did not experience any of that, and it still sucked

What happened to nearly perfect? What you need is a good relationship for a change. Maybe you'd change your mind--who knows? But like others said, just because it sucked for you doesn't mean it sucks for the rest of us.

[Visvaldis]

People marry so that for the first year they can have sex without feeling dirty, immoral, and guilty.
After the first year the marriage becomes a routine, habit, a rut.
But they stary married because of social values.

[Coolhand68]

All depends on whether you marry the right one. Marry the right one and you are thankful for each day you have with one another. Marry the wrong one and each day is a prison sentence.

[TabulaRasa]

Not everyone feels dirty, immoral or guilty about sex. I guess if you do, you have bigger and deeper problems than the single v. married debate.

[Dewdrop93]

Originally Posted by Visvaldis

People marry so that for the first year they can have sex without feeling dirty, immoral, and guilty.
After the first year the marriage becomes a routine, habit, a rut.
But they stary married because of social values.

That's not true! I was just as happy living in sin as when we made it official. I have never felt dirty, immoral, or guilty about sex. What have I felt about it? Satisfied!

[evilnewbie]

Originally Posted by purehuman

Repubocrat...I stayed single too....and loved it!....then I got married...and love it more...To each his own...if being single agrees with you ,great...but it sounds kinda foolish when you say marriage sucks, and you've never been married.

I think it sucks for him... cause he never met anyone he wanted to marry... that's pretty sad for him... to never met someone that you can say I want to grow old with you... that's a tragedy...

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by Visvaldis

People marry so that for the first year they can have sex without feeling dirty, immoral, and guilty.
After the first year the marriage becomes a routine, habit, a rut.
But they stary married because of social values.

Speak for yourself.

And really, what is up with all you people trying to speak for others you don't even know? It's weird.

[Visvaldis]

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