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Old 06-26-2011, 12:36 PM
 
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This is my conclusion, I am 34, single, no kids, never been married, probably never will, I don't even understand why people in the USA are so obsessed with this very antiquated concept.

Some of the brightest people I know around my age are not married either and truly enjoying life, I have a friend who is extremely smart and educated and she has no desire to get married or have kids.

I am far from being wealthy but just because I am not married or have kids, I have enough money to do most of the things I love like traveling.

I don't even understand why most people get married anyways, it seems like most people do it because they have been pressured to do it by someone else or because society "expects" them do it, I could care less about what people or society "expect" from me.

Anyways, I would love to know some of the "rational" reasons why people get married.
If you've never been married, how would you know for sure that it sucks?

Anyway, I'm recently married, and I admit, there was once a time when I never saw myself married. I saw it as a hassle. I wanted freedom.

But I did find a great partner, and I knew I wanted to keep her for as long as I could. I take my marriage one day at a time. I know things can change as we get older, but so far, so good. I don't regret a thing.
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Old 06-26-2011, 12:58 PM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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Getting married was the best decision I ever made. Together, my husband and I have accomplished things in our lives we never would have been able to do apart. We enhance each other, support each other, and complement each others' strengths.

It's not for everyone, but it's a wonderful joy to those who work towards a successful marriage.
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:35 PM
 
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I without the nagging and all the BS that comes with being with someone.
.................................................Y ou're wrong about that .................
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:38 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Repubocrat View Post
This is my conclusion, I am 34, single, no kids, never been married, probably never will, I don't even understand why people in the USA are so obsessed with this very antiquated concept.

Some of the brightest people I know around my age are not married either and truly enjoying life, I have a friend who is extremely smart and educated and she has no desire to get married or have kids.

I am far from being wealthy but just because I am not married or have kids, I have enough money to do most of the things I love like traveling.

I don't even understand why most people get married anyways, it seems like most people do it because they have been pressured to do it by someone else or because society "expects" them do it, I could care less about what people or society "expect" from me.

Anyways, I would love to know some of the "rational" reasons why people get married.
I agree, its just piece of paper. Its great to have someone though.
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:40 PM
 
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IMO, the very best reason to be married is is to have the blessing of someone's permanent and unconditional love. As the wedding vows say, "Till death do us part"...and beyond To be able to love and cherish someone, for always, with all one's heart.

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This is my conclusion, I am 34, single, no kids, never been married, probably never will, I don't even understand why people in the USA are so obsessed with this very antiquated concept.

Some of the brightest people I know around my age are not married either and truly enjoying life, I have a friend who is extremely smart and educated and she has no desire to get married or have kids.

I am far from being wealthy but just because I am not married or have kids, I have enough money to do most of the things I love like traveling.

I don't even understand why most people get married anyways, it seems like most people do it because they have been pressured to do it by someone else or because society "expects" them do it, I could care less about what people or society "expect" from me.

Anyways, I would love to know some of the "rational" reasons why people get married.
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:42 PM
 
Location: Armsanta Sorad
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Being a man sucks! I'm not a man but I know so many unhappy men that it must absolutely suck!

Being single sucks! I'm not single but I see so many bitter, unhappy, whiney single people that it must absolutely suck!

Get my point?
The same can be said about women.
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:42 PM
 
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I think it sucks for him... cause he never met anyone he wanted to marry... that's pretty sad for him... to never met someone that you can say I want to grow old with you... that's a tragedy...
I think that's rubbish. I don't say marriage sucks, even though I have to agree it's quite an irrational choice from a rational point of view.

I've never had a relationship at 41 and I don't think it's a tragedy. It's just the way it is and you move on. It's not my fault nor anyone's fault. I will still get up to go to work tomorrow.

Like I said, I can't speak from experience but I don't despise marriage because I'm not married and other people's marriages don't bother me. Sure, my brother goes through things with his wife and his kids that I could never bear. But if he's okay with it, why should I question that?
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:43 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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The same can be said about women.
You completely missed her point.
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:49 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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.................................................Y ou're wrong about that .................

Of course he is, all reasonable people here know that. Sadly, he is too damaged to "get" it though

I have come to the conclusion that some people just cannot be saved.

And I cannot waste my time or energy giving them hope or information they are too wounded to even realize they need and therefore reject.

It just is what it is.
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:53 PM
 
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Someone said on the forum that marriage is about teamwork. If you're married and it's all about you, I don't see how your marriage is going to last.
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