How to get over the ones who hurt you? (therapy, family, separation)

[tweetybird11208]

Im having trouble moving on I still find myself lurking on their social networks just to see what they are up to, yet they don't care about me

[Raena77]

You need to move on for your sanity. It will make you happier. Find another outlet. Find other people. Trust me been there done that.

[BLAZER PROPHET]

Go and live life. See people, go places... Being hurt is a part of life. So is being happy. So be happy.

[laurenaus]

1. block them so you won't have to keep looking at their page (this is what i do)
2. release your emotions surrounding the situation. I use EFT.

this is what i do

[ferretkona]

Originally Posted by tweetybird11208

Im having trouble moving on I still find myself lurking on their social networks just to see what they are up to, yet they don't care about me

How do you know they do not care?
Simply put they are moving on.

[yankeegirl313]

Put yourself on the "I don`t give a sh*t" list!

[picklejuice]

Move on.

Improve yourself. That is always the best revenge!

[Mr.Cat]

After my painful separation and eventual divorce, I found myself in the same situation, trying to find out what was she doing. Shortly after I realized I will not live my life being miserable so I stopped "lurking". It's been a wonderful life ever since.

[Cleverbeetle98]

I'm right there with you....though not so much lurking, just constantly reminded of what used to be.

My plan is to win the break up. Sure, it's the wrong reason maybe for getting out there but I think eventually it will be less about winning and more about me living an awesome life. Go to the gym, do something fun, if all else fails I'm an avid believer in retail therapy. Regardless, stay busy. If you're busy doing other things, you have less time/chances to think about the people who have already moved on with their lives.

I know it's hard - I don't enjoy randomly fighting back tears for no reason - but you're not helping yourself by lurking.

[tweetybird11208]

It makes it hard to move on because I'm so lonely, I literally don't have any friends anymore and have no choice but to stay home & wallow in self-pity. I get jealous when I see groups of friends having fun, wishing it was me....in a family of a males it gets really loney because all they are into are playing video games...I wish I could go out and have a good time and meet new people like everyone else....but I guess that is not the life i'm supposed to have....