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Yes we are all well aware that you do not desire to have children; you seem to post about it at least once a day. How about putting that on the back-burner, and letting us get to know something else about you? Surely there is something more to you than your status as a non-mom.
Eh, people try to convince themselves of various things here every day. What else is new?!
I've also heard that single, never married women 35+ are "desparate" and their "biological clocks sound like Big Ben" lol. A stereotype, no doubt.
Any thoughts?
This is absolutely true. I really sympathize with women 35+ who want to have kids because in my opinion the choice to have biological children realistically is SLIM no matter what crock people spew all the time about women having first kids well into 40s, it's rare! A first kid after 35 is hit or miss. BUT one has to look at it from another angle, it's better not to marry someone that you know is not right for you simply to have kids... that is MUCH MUCH worse imho than not having kids at all. Many women do this and then they have to put their kids through the trauma of divorce, is it worth it? No.
Even if you marry past your biological prime, there is always adoption... adoption in my opinion is a very noble and kind act and I really look up to people who have made that choice.
Dating. It's all tough, at any age bracket. I would say that my age bracket is the toughest. And that age bracket would be, um, well, nevermind, because honestly, it's all tough, in any bracket.
For us guys though, it sure was so much easier, back in the day.
And I'm talking CAVE MAN days!! I mean, there you are, or were rather, just checking out the situation when BAM, there goes the cave girl of your dreams! So you take your club, bash her over the head, she falls to the ground and hopefully if you didn't bash her too hard you drag her by the hair back to your cave and there you have it. She's yours. No dating necessary.
Ok sure, sometimes in their enthusiasm they hit too hard, but ya break a few eggs to make an omelette. A good one anyway.
I think it might be 70+ for women because they outlive men and so their is less of a dating pool. Plus people in that age are probably widows/widowers who are somewhat stuck in their ways of doing things. Viagra has probably given geriatric dating a boost though (pun intended)
This is absolutely true. I really sympathize with women 35+ who want to have kids because in my opinion the choice to have biological children realistically is SLIM no matter what crock people spew all the time about women having first kids well into 40s, it's rare! A first kid after 35 is hit or miss. BUT one has to look at it from another angle, it's better not to marry someone that you know is not right for you simply to have kids... that is MUCH MUCH worse imho than not having kids at all. Many women do this and then they have to put their kids through the trauma of divorce, is it worth it? No.
Even if you marry past your biological prime, there is always adoption... adoption in my opinion is a very noble and kind act and I really look up to people who have made that choice.
I've seen this many times. 35+ year old women, career minded up till now. Now you want to have kids. All your girlfriends have teenage kids now, and you feel left out and desperate to be a mother. But you have been career minded way too long, and now come across as jaded and hard. No guy wants to put up with that, and now you want some guy to have kids with you. Sad thing is, you will trap a guy into it. And as stated above, have the kids and put them through a divorce, and be even more jaded.
To the board: What age bracket do you find is the worst (as in the hardest) age group to date successfully? For women? For men?
Also....at what age group do you have the most SUCCESS with the opposite sex?
I don't know about age as much as generation. I was born in 1966, the beginning of Gen X, but my "traditional" playgroup--men a few years older--are Baby Boomers. I just found that far too many of them were raised to have that whole Ward Cleaver White Man Sense of Entitlement, where they are the main purpose and women are ancillary. As a result, a lot of them strike me as sublimely selfish and self-absorbed. Not all, but many. Too many for me to want to sift through them.
So, I stick with Gen Xers. They grew up in a world where women work and have careers--their mothers most likely went to work at some point--and I think they are just more used to women who have strong opinions and an independent streak. Overall, they're less likely to be paternalistic or have double standards about sexuality, and more likely to see women as equal partners and not things to protect and "cherish." Again, not all, but many. Enough to make it worth my while.
I wouldn't know about Millennials, and from what I've seen, I'm glad of it. It seems too many of them are immersed in technology to the point where they don't know how to interact with other human beings. These boards are riddled with threads as evidence.
I don't know about age as much as generation. I was born in 1966, the beginning of Gen X, but my "traditional" playgroup--men a few years older--are Baby Boomers.
I think the cut-off of the Baby Boomers at 1964 is weird...
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lol. A stereotype, no doubt.
