My dating experiences (married, guys, single, younger)

[STT Resident]

Originally Posted by BeerGeek40

Interesting thread. Funny, I always pictured TVSG as a pencil necked geek, about 5 foot 8, your basic tech nerd. Then he mentions that he's 6 foot 6. Anyway, this dude very likely has social anxiety disorder, I have it as well ---I simply don't like huge crowds of people. I would certainly NOT recommend medicine here, he'd be better off finding a hobby or two that involve some people and some new interests. As many on these boards have said before. Anyway, good luck to you TVSG on your 4th date!

Welcome new poster! TVSG's CD threads are legion and right there for the reading. And I wouldn't readily attribute a documented "social anxiety disorder" to him. Maybe it's something clinically diagnosed which you personally have had to deal with and obviously something which you've opted NOT to take medication for but TVSG's social dilemmas are in a rather different sphere than maybe yours are. A hobby, meeting people, new interests? Good grief, three years down the 'pike and he listens to nobody, "The World According To TVSG" is written in stone which apparently can never be chipped.

[Hawk J]

Jog thru a local park daily.
Do Situps.

[recuerdeme]

Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy

Looks like those practice dates was a waste of time back in thw winter because I went on two dates in a row with two attractive women and I was shaking with non stop sweating. This is so embarassing and frustrating because I can't control it. It defintely was no reason for me to be nervous on a 3rd date last night but the date today was a 1st date and I was nervous. So basically I'm not accomplishing anything by going on dates for practice with women who are not type.

How can I stop these aniexty attacks? And why the hell I would be meeting someone for the first time today when I have already scheduled 4th date with the other girl? I think I need medication.

Wait... what? You're using women as practice you are sick bro.

[MissLucky]

Originally Posted by recuerdeme

Wait... what? You're using women as practice you are sick bro.

Do you really believe him? LOL!

[STT Resident]

Originally Posted by recuerdeme

Wait... what? You're using women as practice you are sick bro.

Not really. He has such a hard time getting a date (he only meets women on line) and rarely makes it past a first "date" (meeting) so once in a while he decides he needs a new term for dating. It sort of settles his mind, I guess. This time around he opted to call them "practice dates" because then he presumably wouldn't feel so nervous looking at them as "real" dates. Obviously it hasn't worked too well. If you're going to follow TVSG's threads you have to learn how to interpret an illogical mind.

[destinedtodave]

Take a nice shower and do relaxing things before your date. Do ANYTHING but think about her. I find that when getting to know someone, the more you think about that person the more you become tempted to come up with the "what do I say if she says this" game.

I'd be lying if I said I don't get nervous though! I have to start being playful almost immediately, which will calm me down. Sexual tension is a good thing, but not right at the very beginning of a first date. I like to say truthful things but in a joking way sometimes. With a big smile you can say something like "Wow you look nice! That's too bad you're going to make me nervous"

Something in that vein is funny and can remove tension.

[STT Resident]

Originally Posted by decafdave

Take a nice shower and do relaxing things before your date. Do ANYTHING but think about her. I find that when getting to know someone, the more you think about that person the more you become tempted to come up with the "what do I say if she says this" game.

I'd be lying if I said I don't get nervous though! I have to start being playful almost immediately, which will calm me down. Sexual tension is a good thing, but not right at the very beginning of a first date. I like to say truthful things but in a joking way sometimes. With a big smile you can say something like "Wow you look nice! That's too bad you're going to make me nervous"

Something in that vein is funny and can remove tension.

You're a normal-thinking man and are absolutely right. TVSG analyzes everything to death even before a meet/date and seems to set himself up for failure. I think the current predicament he finds himself in is because he's actually already had THREE dates with the same woman which is a first for him and has made him extremely nervous. Seriously, if he got out more and did some normal socializing with people in general he wouldn't have such issues. But like the cartoon character Popeye whose stock phrase was, "I yam what I yam", he's not likely to change and thus the threads he creates will be forever repetitive. Would that it were not so.

[WestPhillyDude75]

Don't smoke
Don't Drink
No kids
Not into Clubs or bars
Cute Face


Now the girl that I'm currently getting to know is pretty but drinks and likes to dance and go to clubs. She even tried to get me to go dancing the other night which wasn't going to happen.


Where are the women who don't DRINK or go to Clubs to dance??????????

[FelixTheCat]

Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy

Don't smoke
Don't Drink
No kids
Not into Clubs or bars
Cute Face


Now the girl that I'm currently getting to know is pretty but drinks and likes to dance and go to clubs. She even tried to get me to go dancing the other night which wasn't going to happen.


Where are the women who don't DRINK or go to Clubs to dance??????????

Why does it matter if she drinks and goes to clubs? If she's not an alcoholic or clubbing every weekend, then who cares? Or you could just be alone?

[HurricaneDC]

What do you mean by "drinks"? That's such a vague term frankly. Some people take it to mean having even one glass of wine a week, others take it to mean getting blackout drunk. Yeah it ain't easy finding women who don't have any alcohol at all. Might wanna compromise on that front if that's what you mean by "doesn't drink."