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You have obviously not gone through a devestating break-up. There's actual physical pain when your heart "breaks"- there's a feeling of emptiness and heaviness in your chest that's hard to explain. When I had my heart broken I would've rather had my leg broken at the time because that's just physical pain that will last a few weeks before it heals, but the emotional one? It takes more time and dedication. People can live years with emotional scars that, though they get smaller over time, are still there. But you're not going to compare a shot in the head to your boyfriend of 3 months breaking up with you, come on, that's just extreme.
I definately agree about the "physical" side to emotional pain..Your heart hurts in your chest..
If you really thought about a person who lived in a society where they literally had no friends and no one to trust, for years and years, and no one ever put even a thought into giving a damn about them, perhaps they live alone in some apartment with a dead end job and no family, you could imagine how that pain can make people take their own lives.
That pretty much describes the last 10 years of my life, but I'm not quite ready to put the barrel in my mouth yet.
Close, at times, but not quite yet. Most of the time I'm fine with it. It's only when I throw the once-in-a-blue-moon pity party that I even think about it. The rest of the time I'm too busy enjoying the things I'm able to do that I enjoy, when I want to do them.
The image I still have in my head where I had to lift my mom up and carry her to the ambulance because cancer literally ate her hip and broke it is pretty much burned into my mind still, too.
Was the last time she was in the family house.
Omg that's horrible. ((((Big Hug to you))) I hope our folks are now having a grand old time on the otherside! And laughing at our crazy butts.
Emotional pain and long-term stress are very serious and can lead to various psychosomatic symptoms and even full-blown diseases.
What is Psychosomatic Illness? (http://staroversky.com/psychology/what-is-psychosomatic-illness/ - broken link)
Once I was under tremendous stress for months and had low-grade fever for no apparent reason the whole time. As soon as I extracted myself from the situation, the fever went away.
I never understood how anyone could believe emotional pain is worse than physical. People say "emotional pain lasts forever but physical pain heals". If I get shot in the stomach and then a bullet in my head tell me when ill be healing, considering dead people don't heal!
I asked a friend who picked the emotional side and I said "You would rather go through one of those torture methods they used in various wars, instead of finding out the basic/simple fact your boyfriend stuck his d*** in another girl?". And she actually said yes and I was shocked.
With emotional pain you can CONTROL and CHOOSE to let it bother you. Like if a person called me a "low-life loser". I can choose to let it eat at me inside and depress me or I can brush it off and go about my day as if it didn't happen.
With physical pain, if I get punched in the nose, there is no "I can choose or control" the pain I will feel in my nose and it will hurt like hell and that is uncontrollable
Al Pacino's speech in this movie is one of the best descriptions I could give you for your ponderance when he talks about an amputated spirit over an amputated limb.
People who claim emotional pain is worse than the physical variety have obviously never experienced a lot of physical pain or a very intense pain. Try life saving surgery that requires a central line, almost dying, 16 years of intense, debilitating pain, such that you literally can't walk, etc. & get back to me
You see. It varies because all pain stems from emotions, it is understandable if you fracture your arm and it pops out of your skin. You get frightened and begin to cry because you are seeing stuff you are not suppose to. That is why emotional pain is worse than physical. Physical is all about what you can take and emotional hits you really hard even if you try not to let it. Even psychopaths have emotions and are bound to the laws of emotional pain. Physical not so much and people that have been through a lot are not so prone to crying over a broken arm, etc.
With emotional pain you can CONTROL and CHOOSE to let it bother you.
You think ?
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Like if a person called me a "low-life loser". I can choose to let it eat at me inside and depress me or I can brush it off and go about my day as if it didn't happen.
And you think that's emotional pain ?
I hope you neve r have to find out what real emotional pain is, or you're in for a big shock, boyo.
My son is recovering from a 2nd brain tumor...He's had to deal with both physical and emotional pain and stress...And his condition put stress on me too! (Hoping and praying that he would recover!)...I don't think it's healthy to "avoid feeling." Nobody wants to "feel fear" or "feel sadness" or anger or frustration or disappointment or rejection or any "troubling emotions" because they can be so painful!...But if we keep everything "locked-up" deep inside of us we can "crack-up" at some point or we can develop physical problems. (As others have mentioned.) Our emotions need an outlet so we can stay healthy and sane and rational. My Dad was a "rage-a-holic" because he didn't release and process his emotions in "small doses." He let everything build-up inside of him and he became a "raging volcano" every so often and out of control. (And not in his "right mind!")
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