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I'm a introvert and I'm kind of shy. I'm shy when I first meet people. It takes a while until I'm okay with them, but I'm still a introvert no matter what. Sometimes I can greet people without being shy if I put on my big girl pants.
A little shy when first meeting people but once we get to know each other and find similar likes we can become pretty good friends. However, I don't seek people out. Even if a favorite star/idol was standing close by talking with some people, I'd still sit back whereas some of my friends would be right up there getting autographs and such. I'm so in awe of them.
I know my relatives so can't be shy there but I'm still considered quiet compared to some of them. I can talk to my bil for awhile - BIG talker there, but then my jaw becomes sore and my energy levels are zapped even tho he did most of the talking. I'm just not used to talking. Guess that's why my jaw hurts afterwards, since I don't excercise it as much.
Shy and introvert aren't not the same thing, not even close. Often, shy people really want to interact a lot with others, but fear the repercussions. Introverts can't be bothered with social interaction due not to fear, but due to the energy drain that occurs after doing so.
I don't know why people make this common mistake of equating the two.
what category would shy people fit into, introvert or extrovert?...Extrovert I don't think so, so I guess you can be introverted but not shy, you can be shy and an introvert, but you cannot be a shy and be considered an extrovert
what category would shy people fit into, introvert or extrovert?...Extrovert I don't think so, so I guess you can be introverted but not shy, you can be shy and an introvert, but you cannot be a shy and be considered an extrovert
You can absolutely be shy and an extrovert. Those are the shy people who draw energy from being with people. Like they are scared to talk to people but after talking with them for a long time, say at a party, they feel energized.
Introvert/Extrovert is all about where you derive your energy from. Is it from interacting for lengthy periods (extrovert) with people or from within (introvert).
This isn't to bash those shy,reserved people out there but why not just come out and say you are bashful,etc ? I hear laments about everyone thinking they were stuck up,unfriendly, anti-men/women. Please, the others' aren't mindreaders plus we don't wish to disturb you should you happen not to like us
why should they? Just because an extrovert needs to give themselves gratification and attention doesn't mean everyone needs to. Anyway, if you can't figure out that someone is reserved vs stuckup... well.. thats the other persons problem ~ not the shy person.
I've been thought of as stuck up, cold etc. Then they get to know me..... As an ambivert, I know I'm not. I don't expect a mind-reader and being disturbed is okay, unless of course you need constant attention, .... then thats just annoying.
I've always been shy. I hoped I would outgrow it, but never did. Now in my 40's and recently single, its an issue. I don't know how to overcome it. There is no way I'm going to apprach a woman in a bar, grocery store, bookstore, etc. So whats the answer? Its not internet dating. I think I'm going to have to just hire a matchmaker if I ever want to find a wife and have kids. I better get moving on this fast.
This isn't to bash those shy,reserved people out there but why not just come out and say you are bashful,etc ? I hear laments about everyone thinking they were stuck up,unfriendly, anti-men/women. Please, the others' aren't mindreaders plus we don't wish to disturb you should you happen not to like us
I tell them I am shy and they don't believe me.
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I hear laments about everyone thinking they were stuck up,unfriendly, anti-men/women. Please, the others' aren't mindreaders plus we don't wish to disturb you should you happen not to like us 
