Did I set myself up for failure here? (date, girls, 2015)

[truth to valid]

Today during my lunch break I stopped over quickly at the bank to use the ATM. When I got inside I noticed a girl (probably around my age) sitting down reading some magazine. Well, I decided I was going to approach her, not because I found her particularly attractive or anything, but to see how she would respond to such a cold approach.

So, I asked her if I could sit with her, she says 'yes' so I plop myself down right next to her and got right to it. Immediately I asked if she would like to go on a date with me -- no playful banter preceding it. She says 'no', I smile, say 'take care' and go off on my merry way.

Does this method have any bit of a success rate, or should I try chatting the girls up first? How do girls typically respond to strangers approaching them?

[ElysianEagle]

Originally Posted by truth to valid

Does this method have any bit of a success rate, or should I try chatting the girls up first? How do girls typically respond to strangers approaching them?

this method has a practically 0 success rate. you should try chatting up the girls first. girls typically respond with 'no' to strangers approaching them.

[FelixTheCat]

Originally Posted by truth to valid

Today during my lunch break I stopped over quickly at the bank to use the ATM. When I got inside I noticed a girl (probably around my age) sitting down reading some magazine. Well, I decided I was going to approach her, not because I found her particularly attractive or anything, but to see how she would respond to such a cold approach.

So, I asked her if I could sit with her, she says 'yes' so I plop myself down right next to her and got right to it. Immediately I asked if she would like to go on a date with me -- no playful banter preceding it. She says 'no', I smile, say 'take care' and go off on my merry way.

Does this method have any bit of a success rate, or should I try chatting the girls up first? How do girls typically respond to strangers approaching them?

You should have made small talk with her. If she goes along with that for a few minutes, then ask for her number. You asked for too much too soon.

[LuckyGem]

What if she said yes?

I think people know when you're playing games with them with the approach you gave her.

"not because I found her particularly attractive or anything, but to see how she would respond to such a cold approach"

.... O.K.?

Then you say:

Does this method have any bit of a success rate, or should I try chatting the girls up first? How do girls typically respond to strangers approaching them?

Did you have any success? No.

So change up your approach.

[truth to valid]

If she said 'yes' I probably would have taken her number but never called. This was more practice for me than anything.

[truth to valid]

Originally Posted by ElysianEagle

this method has a practically 0 success rate. you should try chatting up the girls first. girls typically respond with 'no' to strangers approaching them.

The question then becomes; would it work for an anonymous Brad Pitt?

[FelixTheCat]

Originally Posted by truth to valid

The question then becomes; would it work for an anonymous Brad Pitt?

I have a friend that everyone says is very good looking and he is tall too. He does get away with more than other guys, BUT he still flirts and makes conversion for a few minutes. You got to give her a chance to see that you can act like a normal person. Even if you are Brad Pitt, you don't want to come off as a serial killer.

[Snort]

Always worked for me. Ask her if she knows a good place to have lunch and then set up a date. Coffee is easier and less of a commitment. Either way works. There's also the possibility that she's previously engaged, so to speak.
Just go out there with the idea of meeting people and getting to know them.

[Funny how?]

Originally Posted by truth to valid

Today during my lunch break I stopped over quickly at the bank to use the ATM. When I got inside I noticed a girl (probably around my age) sitting down reading some magazine. Well, I decided I was going to approach her, not because I found her particularly attractive or anything, but to see how she would respond to such a cold approach.

So, I asked her if I could sit with her, she says 'yes' so I plop myself down right next to her and got right to it. Immediately I asked if she would like to go on a date with me -- no playful banter preceding it. She says 'no', I smile, say 'take care' and go off on my merry way.

Does this method have any bit of a success rate, or should I try chatting the girls up first? How do girls typically respond to strangers approaching them?

Sir, you made it easy for her to say no. Don't make it easy! Approach the girl you like(or don't know), flirt some. Relax, maybe crack a joke.

When you look at her, look at her face, her eyes. Don't be looking at her breasts(especially if they're hugh). "oh, I was only looking at your name tag! Honest!" That ain't gonna cut it.

Pop the question. Keep your cool if she says no. Respond gracefully. You can't say "Hey, I didn't really want to go out with you anyway, bit*h!" No, don't do that.

Don't forget, there are lot's of fish in the sea. That's more than just a cliche. Ya like fish?? Good luck.

[artikk]

To answer your question, yes. You didn't establish rapport beyond asking to sit close to the girl and proceeded to ask her out shortly thereafter.She didn't know your intentions and still saw you as a random stranger. Would you say yes if you were in this situation as the girl?