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So for all the guys that believe "whoever asked"...
You meet an attractive girl. You guys get to talking, find mutual interests and she asks if you want to continue the conversation at the cafe. You guys go to the cafe and have a blast. Great conversation, tons of chemistry and flirting and you can see this going somewhere.
Then the check comes. How many of you guys would EXPECT and ALLOW her to pay for the whole thing since she asked you to the cafe?
So for all the guys that believe "whoever asked"...
You meet an attractive girl. You guys get to talking, find mutual interests and she asks if you want to continue the conversation at the cafe. You guys go to the cafe and have a blast. Great conversation, tons of chemistry and flirting and you can see this going somewhere.
Then the check comes. How many of you guys would EXPECT and ALLOW her to pay for the whole thing since she asked you to the cafe?
I think it should be "whoever asked", but I'm also not crass enough to think it's appropriate for a woman to pay in any circumstance, and women shouldn't be asking guys out in the first place. In the scenario you outlined above, you're already out with the girl; her asking to go somewhere else isn't "asking you out", it's simply a change of venue.
All the guys bitching about women being required to pay are simply overreacting to the overt stupidity perpetrated by feminists who have a double standard about dating. These guys have probably been burned by a woman who said she was "liberated", but still expected to be treated like a lady. You can't really blame them, can you? Even after all the stupid crap girls have done to me in the past, I still think good manners are never inappropriate and thus I always pay for dates, no matter what. One girl actually got into an argument with me, in public, about my insistence of paying for dinner. She flatly refused to let me do so, and made a huge scene about it. Yes, I was embarrassed, and yes she acted moronically, but should I let the bad manners of one woman affect how I treat the rest?
Again, these guys are just bitter and annoyed, with good reason, but they're still wrong. They need to simply not tolerate unladylike behavior and not deal with women who act in such a rude, disrespectful way.
So for all the guys that believe "whoever asked"...
You meet an attractive girl. You guys get to talking, find mutual interests and she asks if you want to continue the conversation at the cafe. You guys go to the cafe and have a blast. Great conversation, tons of chemistry and flirting and you can see this going somewhere.
Then the check comes. How many of you guys would EXPECT and ALLOW her to pay for the whole thing since she asked you to the cafe?
I pay my part. Nobody twisted my arm to go for coffee with her, I WANTED to go, therefore, I am also responsible for the expenses regardless of price. We are both having a good time, both interested in being there, etc. why leave it all to her and feel entitled?
So for all the guys that believe "whoever asked"...
You meet an attractive girl. You guys get to talking, find mutual interests and she asks if you want to continue the conversation at the cafe. You guys go to the cafe and have a blast. Great conversation, tons of chemistry and flirting and you can see this going somewhere.
Then the check comes. How many of you guys would EXPECT and ALLOW her to pay for the whole thing since she asked you to the cafe?
The reason for this poll is that it just amazes me how many people believe that the male is SUPPOSED to pay for dates. If he does not he is usually seen as a cheap A$$ho!3. Why cant things be equal? I am all in favor of equality of the sexes but in this matter it never seems to be the case. I think the bills should always be split. Is it because it has always been like that? Is it in the bible? Just because it has always been that way does not make it right. What makes the guy responsible to pay for the bill?
(By the way, I always pay for my dates, not because I believe is right, but because not doing or suggesting a split bill could bring a lot of unpleasantness to the situation.)
It depends. I believe whoever ask for the date should pay. But personally i would pay. ( BTW i am a male)
I think it should be "whoever asked", but I'm also not crass enough to think it's appropriate for a woman to pay in any circumstance, and women shouldn't be asking guys out in the first place. In the scenario you outlined above, you're already out with the girl; her asking to go somewhere else isn't "asking you out", it's simply a change of venue.
All the guys bitching about women being required to pay are simply overreacting to the overt stupidity perpetrated by feminists who have a double standard about dating. These guys have probably been burned by a woman who said she was "liberated", but still expected to be treated like a lady. You can't really blame them, can you? Even after all the stupid crap girls have done to me in the past, I still think good manners are never inappropriate and thus I always pay for dates, no matter what. One girl actually got into an argument with me, in public, about my insistence of paying for dinner. She flatly refused to let me do so, and made a huge scene about it. Yes, I was embarrassed, and yes she acted moronically, but should I let the bad manners of one woman affect how I treat the rest?
Again, these guys are just bitter and annoyed, with good reason, but they're still wrong. They need to simply not tolerate unladylike behavior and not deal with women who act in such a rude, disrespectful way.
And why shouldn't women be allowed to ask someone out on a date? The level of condescension and genteel attitude towards women is more disrespectful than anything else here. You claim to care about good manners but then you call a woman a moron for insisting to pay her own way.
As mention by numerous others, whoever asks pays. I would never ask someone out and expect them to pay. That's not right. But if she asks me out, her ass is paying.
So for all the guys that believe "whoever asked"...
You meet an attractive girl. You guys get to talking, find mutual interests and she asks if you want to continue the conversation at the cafe. You guys go to the cafe and have a blast. Great conversation, tons of chemistry and flirting and you can see this going somewhere.
Then the check comes. How many of you guys would EXPECT and ALLOW her to pay for the whole thing since she asked you to the cafe?
I allow her on many occasions. Honestly, it's not a big deal to me and if it's a big deal her, we're probably not really compatible anyways. There's a million girls out there that I have to check out.. I'm not going to waste my time with someone who cares about such petty things.
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