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By the same token, I make less money than a lot of men, yet they expect to date a woman who looks like she has a personal trainer, and works out every day for five hours, shops at Victoria Secret, wears designer clothing, has her nails, hair, and make up professionally done.
And now, the guy wants me to buy my own coffee at Starbuck's? Sure. Just don't expect to come home with me too.
So ladies how long into a dating do you start paying?
In all the years I dated prior to marriage, I never had my BF pay for anything. We split all movies, dates, dinners and lunches 50/50. Or else we traded off who paid. I have never understood why women expect men to pay for them on dates. If I was single now and dating, I would behave the same way. I would pay my own way in everything.
Similarly, if I were male and the women I was seeing expected me to pay for everything, I would draw back immediately. Why do women think they're entitled to have the guy pay for their meals or dates?
When I moved to the US I was very confused the first time I went on a date. I remember the waitress came over and put the tab in the middle of the table, lol. Back home this is a non-existent question as men ALWAYS pay for dates. Now that I've been dating outside of my race, I have never paid on a date. I guess the men I have gone out with believe in paying or they have google "what not to do when dating a Dominican woman" lol.
I think is rude to choose the restaurant, do the asking and expect the other party to pay. I believe whoever asks should pay. Once I have gone on several dates with a guy I don't mind doing nice things for him like cooking, doing a picnic, taking him out for a drink, etc. But it's hard to get rid of 20+ years of conditioning in just a few that I have been in the US.
Just ended a "relationship" with a girl who ended it by texting me saying she needs a guy who pays for things the majority of the time. Keep in mind I paid for the first 4 dates, a weekend trip to the beach for two and this past weekend she paid for waffle house and then we split a meal at panera bread. a few hours later after panera she texts me saying she needs a guy who pays for the majority of the dates. i didn't realize that her paying for waffle house was too much for her haha. i'm a teacher and make a king's ransom obviously ;-). i also drove us everywhere and would buy her random things like cigarettes, wine, even cooked meals at her place i bought everything from the grocery store.
so ladies how long into a dating do you start paying?
Your question has nothing to do with the fleabag selfish wench you dated.
Women will start paying immediately if they like you enough. Unless they are gold-digging psychos.
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