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Single people - do you think a relationship would make you happier? People in relationships - does your relationship make you happier?
I find myself thinking if I had someone that I would be happier. Not that I'm super unhappy right now, but it does feel like something is missing sometimes. Yet when I think of the time I was in a serious relationship I was constantly miserable, so being single has to be better than being in a bad relationship.
Just a general question. What are your experiences?
I'm not single, but until you can be happy being single, you likely will not be any happier with a partner. You must learn to be complete, all by yourself. It's not necessarily an easy thing to do. When my first wife and I split up, I had never ever really been alone, I had no idea how to be alone much less be happy being alone. It wasn't until I had figured that out that I found myself ready to be in a relationship again. Likely the most important lesson I've ever learned.
For me, relationships are great the first 6 months or so and then become boring and seem to require much more work. So yes, relationships make me happier initially, but stressed out after that 6 month time period.
I'm single, of course, and plan to stay that way for quite some time unless I meet a chick that's just way too good to pass up.
Single people - do you think a relationship would make you happier? People in relationships - does your relationship make you happier?
I find myself thinking if I had someone that I would be happier. Not that I'm super unhappy right now, but it does feel like something is missing sometimes. Yet when I think of the time I was in a serious relationship I was constantly miserable, so being single has to be better than being in a bad relationship.
Just a general question. What are your experiences?
It can, but there has to be a foundation there at least. People may be happy in one aspect of their lives but not another, And it can weigh on them. A healthy relationship can give one hope, provide companionship, support and help an individual understand what it is like to give and receive. People are social by nature and while some may be content with being single relationship wise there are always moments where they may be dining alone after numerous times having done so and think "it's too quiet. Ya know?".
The choice they make then is up to them, Their situation.
My life is pretty good right now. I've worked hard to get here and I'm looking forward to the next chapter for the first time in a long time. I've got a lot of love and companionship in my life but I do miss being part of something bigger than myself. I wouldn't say a relationship would make me happy, but rather just enhance what I've already got going on.
Of course I would. It's even better when the woman is putting in the same amount of effort on the relationship as I am, whish I've found to be incredibly rare.
I'm not single, but until you can be happy being single, you likely will not be any happier with a partner. You must learn to be complete, all by yourself. It's not necessarily an easy thing to do. When my first wife and I split up, I had never ever really been alone, I had no idea how to be alone much less be happy being alone. It wasn't until I had figured that out that I found myself ready to be in a relationship again. Likely the most important lesson I've ever learned.
Spot on
I learned this as well...and low and behold once I learned this, it changed the whole way I acted on dates and it ended up leading me to my wife
In a nutshell I was very happy in my last days of being single and I'm very happy now married. Unfortunately there are plenty of people out there that think a relationship will make them happy but they could not be more wrong.
I'm content either way - contentedness is what I tend to strive for. That said, I really dislike the very early stages of a relationship when you're always "on". I am beginning to get a tad bored, so I may decide to attempt a relationship at some point, but I have no sense of urgency about the matter.
I agree with the posters who stated that you'll never be happy in a relationship if you can't be happy with yourself first.
I learned this as well...and low and behold once I learned this, it changed the whole way I acted on dates and it ended up leading me to my wife
In a nutshell I was very happy in my last days of being single and I'm very happy now married. Unfortunately there are plenty of people out there that think a relationship will make them happy but they could not be more wrong.
How do you think you changed? What did you do different?
I have a great life. Good job, good apartment, lots of friends and family that care about me and vice versa. I've started going to the gym and trying to do more things outside of my usual box...but I can't help deep down I really want someone and I'm wondering if I want it too badly and that's why it's not working out, yet I can't help the way I feel about wanting a relationship. I'm not miserable without one, but I don't feel quite complete either.
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