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Old 07-18-2011, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn, New York
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Is this feeling supposed to last forever? The wanting to be around your SO 24/7? Getting happy and excited when you are about the seem them etc...

This post was inspired from this blog Tales from the Motherhood: I'm Not in Love with you Anymore


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Old 07-18-2011, 02:18 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Is this feeling supposed to last forever? The wanting to be around your SO 24/7? Getting happy and excited when you are about the seem them etc...

This post was inspired from this blog Tales from the Motherhood: I'm Not in Love with you Anymore

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That giddy, gushy feeling ("butterflies") is infatuation and fades with time, yes. Sometimes there is real love underneath, but sometimes not.

Feeling happy and wanting to be near a person can be part of loving feelings. If the love is real, those feelings will not fade.
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Old 07-18-2011, 02:39 PM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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That giddy, gushy feeling ("butterflies") is infatuation and fades with time, yes. Sometimes there is real love underneath, but sometimes not.

Feeling happy and wanting to be near a person can be part of loving feelings. If the love is real, those feelings will not fade.
That sounds right. The butterflies should fade as confidence in the relationship grows - or dies. But pleasure at seeing your S.O. should persist.

If butterflies persist beyond a few months, you may be experiencing GI tract issues.
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Old 07-18-2011, 06:41 PM
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No that feeling doesn't last forever but you may find that it pops up sometimes throughout your relationship. The 24/7 can lead to getting tired in the relationship and losing those feelings early. It's nothing to break things off for so don't worry.
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Old 07-18-2011, 08:09 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Is this feeling supposed to last forever? The wanting to be around your SO 24/7? Getting happy and excited when you are about the seem them etc...

This post was inspired from this blog Tales from the Motherhood: I'm Not in Love with you Anymore


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You want stress forever?!

There is one thing in common to all the vast number of possible triggers for butterflies: stress. Whether itís the scary stress of an exam, interview or presentation, or whether itís the excited, positive stress of talking to someone you like, the excitement of a first kiss, or the thrill of riding on a rollercoaster, it is nonetheless stress, and the body reacts to both positive and negative stress in very similar ways.

Butterflies in the Stomach: Why do I get butterflies in my stomach?
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Old 07-20-2011, 12:12 PM
 
Location: NY
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Butterflies? No, not forever. However, if there is a deeper love there, you will still look forward to seeing them!

I have known my fiance 2 years. I would say that I am past any butterflies (for the most part). We see each other daily and know it will happen. So no butterflies anymore (although on occasion if we have something special planned maybe there are).

That said, seeing her is always one of the highlights of my day too! There is not a day where I do not look forward to some time with her, whether it is 5 hours of 5 minutes, or whether we are going to go on a romantic date, or get some chores done.
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Old 07-20-2011, 12:19 PM
 
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Is this feeling supposed to last forever?
NO.
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Old 07-20-2011, 12:30 PM
 
Location: USA
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[quote=sweetchas;20069311]Is this feeling supposed to last forever? quote]
Yes, they can last as long as nature indended them to last. A finite relationship that is only filled with pleasure is much better than a long, never ending abuse filled relationship!
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Old 07-20-2011, 03:02 PM
 
Location: New York
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Only until reality hits you and you realize that your partner has faults (that are not gonna change) and relationships take real work.

Check out this link - Stages of a Committed Relationship - http://www.relationship-institute.com/freearticles_detail.cfm?article_ID=153 (broken link)
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Old 07-20-2011, 03:16 PM
 
Location: SWUS
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Unfortunately, the butterflies aren't permanent.. but when they are, those couples stay together for years and years
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